+ Reply to Thread
Page 1 of 3 123 LastLast
Results 1 to 10 of 29
  1. #1
    Join Date
    Feb 2006
    Posts
    16,716
    Thanks
    14
    Thanked
    63
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 postsRuby Star - 15,000 posts

    Default Super mums, do they really exist?

    I'm always lacking in some thing, if my house is spotless i will more then likely look like a hobo
    If i put in some effort to look good, i probably will skip doing dishes.
    Sometimes I just run a brush through my kids hair instead of styling it, those days tend to be the one they get a random photo taken lol
    Am I going to compare myself with another mother, hell no
    I know I do my best, I'm not cooking 3 course meals, I'm more slummy mummy then yummy ha ha
    But I'm damn happy with where I am mentally and emotionally.
    Sure I know I can put more effort into some things, but I'm no super mum. I've never seen one either... So I'm guessing man made myth to make us work even harder, while the man kicks back playing call of duty, drinking a beer and question my cooking skills lol

  2. #2
    Join Date
    Apr 2009
    Posts
    19,600
    Thanks
    3,256
    Thanked
    4,044
    Reviews
    8
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 postsRuby Star - 15,000 posts
    Same! I cleaned my house top to bottom yesterday & only got out of my PJs and dressed jasper (he was Nigel no pants all day) at 4:45 because I realised DF would be home soon and I smelled pretty gross.

    But then also because I'd cleaned (and nested) all day, we had pizza for dinner, because I really couldn't be bothered cooking (and messing up my kitchen!)

    I'm not a super mum.

    I'm a good mum.

    Sometimes a great mum.

    Sometimes a pretty average mum.

    But I'm cool with it.

  3. The Following User Says Thank You to Boobycino For This Useful Post:

    Lovemyfam  (15-02-2012)

  4. #3
    Join Date
    Mar 2010
    Posts
    5,687
    Thanks
    1,089
    Thanked
    4,057
    Reviews
    3
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts
    Slummy Mummy!!

    This is so me. I finally got around to coloring my hair yesterday, but the 4 hour process meant I didn't cook dinner or do an extra load of washing.

    I could do better, but my kids don't care if the house isn't spotless or the pile of washing grows a bit.

  5. #4
    Join Date
    Apr 2010
    Posts
    3,619
    Thanks
    16
    Thanked
    767
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    Depends on how you define a super mum.

    My house is a disaster zone. So is my car come to think of it. I can pretty much guarantee that ds1 didn't pull the plug out of the bath last night. And that his and ds2's clothes are still on the bathroom floor. Beds aren't made. Dishes in the sink. Washing basket full waiting to be folded. Nappies waiting to be snapped. Grass over grown. Toys everywhere. Ds1 is covered in texta, and looking at ds2 I think he has been chewing on a texta too. There is half a banana sitting on my lap while I hold my coffee mug. Laptop loading while I contemplate how on earth I am going to do my work amidst the chaos.

    I reckon I'm super mum because regardless of all this, my kids are clean (besides the texta but it's washable), fed (except for the half eaten banana), clothed, and happy. I don't think being a super mum is squeezing into the unrealistic ideal of what we SHOULD be like. Rather that we have happy kids who know how much they are loved! And that we are happy accepting that.

  6. The Following 3 Users Say Thank You to One of THOSE mums! For This Useful Post:

    Camel  (17-02-2012),Gandalf  (17-02-2012),TimTamsandTea  (16-02-2012)

  7. #5
    Join Date
    Nov 2007
    Posts
    19,776
    Thanks
    5,212
    Thanked
    7,063
    Reviews
    1
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 postsRuby Star - 15,000 posts
    I know a few 'perfect mums' and DP calls me super mum, but I think most mums are super mums. We're one of the few people in the human race who are expected to survive (and not complain about) large amounts of sleep deprivation.

    I manage to keep the house tidy by my standards, get to work on time, have my hair/make up done daily... but I only have one child and he's a breeze behaviour-wise.

    When I see mums with bags under their eyes, two toddlers hanging off their legs, dropping the older one to school in their tracksuit THAT is when I think "wow, she's a supermum"

  8. #6
    Join Date
    Feb 2006
    Posts
    16,716
    Thanks
    14
    Thanked
    63
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 postsRuby Star - 15,000 posts
    You'd think so, I have 3 girls in primary, all completely different styles of how they dress and wear their hair. There are some kids going to school daily with painstakingly precision styles.

  9. #7
    Join Date
    Aug 2010
    Location
    in a wormhole
    Posts
    2,769
    Thanks
    4,600
    Thanked
    2,802
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    No, I don't think the perfect supermum from the stereotype exists.

    Every mum I know who appears to have it all and manage everything perfectly is struggling more than appearances suggest.

    Great mums? Absolutely. Loving mums? You bet. Organised? Sure.

    Perfect supermum who manages to be everything and do everything asked of her whilst barely smudging her perfect mascara and flawless foundation? Only on tv.

  10. #8
    Join Date
    Feb 2006
    Posts
    16,716
    Thanks
    14
    Thanked
    63
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 postsRuby Star - 15,000 posts
    I get weird looks when I drop my girls at school, sure I'm not wearing shoes, I'm just getting them out of the car and walking them over to the gate... Be happy I'm wearing a bra.. Well most days

  11. #9
    Join Date
    Jun 2007
    Posts
    2,764
    Thanks
    7
    Thanked
    465
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    I have days where I shower and change out of my PJ's into new ones just before bed. Running a household is hard work with 3 children under 4 and virtually no support network. One of my little ones has just had a vomiting bug and I did 6 loads of washing yesterday. I think ALL of us were in PJ's all day!
    My friends think I'm a supermum because I always bring freshly baked muffins, etc when we catch up. Truth is, I love baking (and eating!) and since I'm on a restricted diet, if I don't make something myself, chances are I won't be able to eat it- so its purely for my benefit!

  12. #10
    OJandMe's Avatar
    OJandMe is offline I am the strength my children will have.
    Join Date
    Jul 2005
    Posts
    10,123
    Thanks
    910
    Thanked
    1,165
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 posts
    I've 'appeared' as a super-mum for a while....

    study/work/parent/maintain a good relationship with DH/cook/clean/look after myself.....


    but in reality I was just neatly stacking internal box upon internal box upon internal box of stress, anxiety and depression.....

    And my kids were spiralling behaviour wise because I was so BUSY juggling 7 balls, while riding a unicycle, on a plank with a glass of water on my nose... that me just saying "You need to be respectful" meant NOTHING to them... as I'd turn around a few minutes later and just scream "I'm BUSY... leave....me...alone!"


    NOW.... I've given up study and cut back on work... and I'm playing.... I PLAY.
    I jump on the trampoline, and hit a badminton birdie, and slot connect 4's...

    Now when I say "in our family we speak kindly to each other... try again"... they know what I mean.

    I'm by no means holding all the straws, but I'm so much happier... and so are my kids.

  13. The Following 9 Users Say Thank You to OJandMe For This Useful Post:

    Areca  (21-02-2012),Daydream Believer  (15-02-2012),erinn  (18-02-2012),Gandalf  (17-02-2012),Kyls  (16-02-2012),lulu21  (15-02-2012),MissMuppet  (15-02-2012),MissPoss  (15-02-2012),OurLittleBlessing  (15-02-2012)


 

Similar Threads

  1. Does Santa exist???
    By sparklebug in forum General Parenting Tips, Advice & Chat
    Replies: 32
    Last Post: 10-11-2012, 11:26
  2. Does a dog breed like this exist?
    By Witwicky in forum Pets
    Replies: 45
    Last Post: 09-07-2012, 16:00
  3. Quesiton for the super organised Mums (& Dads)
    By OurLittleBlessing in forum General Chat
    Replies: 9
    Last Post: 26-03-2012, 08:14

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
free weekly newsletters | sign up now!
who are these people who write great posts? meet our hubbub authors!
Learn how you can contribute to the hubbub!

reviews
learn how you can become a reviewer!

competitions

forum - chatting now
christmas gift guidesee all Red Stocking
Einsteinz Music
Make music at Einsteinz Music in age-appropriate class in Sydney's Inner West, Eastern Suburbs or North Shore. For ages 6 mths - 4 yrs. All music is live! Christmas Gift certificates available for full term or casual classes. Call 0431 338 143
sales & new stuffsee all
True Fairies
True Fairies is the first interactive website where children can engage and speak with a real fairy through the unique webcam fairy portal. Each session is tailored to the child, and is filled with enchantment and magic.
Visit website to find out more!
featured supporter
Carmels Beauty Secrets
An online beauty and wellness site which offers simple and effective time saving methods and tips which help you look younger for longer.
gotcha
X

Pregnant for the first-time?

Not sure where to start? We can help!

Our Insider Programs for pregnancy first-timers will lead you step-by-step through the 14 Pregnancy Must Dos!