I don't think it's selfish per se but I do think it's 'self centred' meaning that the person can't seem to be able to look outside of themselves. They are focused on their own misery and are unable to even so much as look at what their actions could do to others. They are just so caught up in their own misery. Depression which leads to suicide is a very self centred disease I feel.
Obviously this would be part of the illness, I presume and it's heart wrenching to watch someone go through that, or experience that for yourself.
Suicide has touched our family, and for a long time I was very angry at this family member for being so selfish. I was also angry at myself for being selfish when I attempted at the age of 15. Wasn't until I got older that I realised it was more self-centred rather than selfish and that it really cannot be helped when one is in the middle of it.
I think that if the person is able to see ourside of themselves they can be 'saved' (so to speak). I guess it's what saved me, in a way. But it's finding a way of helping someone do this which is difficult.
I'm sorry I'm probably not being very clear....
I hope people can understand what I'm saying.