My DS has never really liked being cuddled. When I was pregnant with him I couldn't wait to breastfeed, to co-sleep, to massage him and shower him with affection.
I had to stop breastfeeding at 3 months and he has never fallen asleep with me apart from when he was very tiny.
I have tried giving him massages (from birth) and he just wriggles and squirms and wants to get away.
When I try to cuddle him and say 'ohhh cuddles' and rock him back and forth he pushes me away and whinges.
We had a bit of a rough night last night and at 5am this morning I was so tired so took him into bed with me and tried to settle him there. Normally when he has trouble sleeping I will leave him in the cot and 'shhhh', sing softly and rub his back. In my bed I sung softly to him and rubbed his back and all he did was scratch and pull at my face and neck, head butt me, kick and squirm and cry. It really hurts that I can't comfort him.
It really worries me and I wonder what he will be like when he is bigger and stronger, or if we have to go somewhere such as on a plane during his sleep time. There is no way he will sleep in my arms. Or if he ever gets sick (hasn't yet, fingers crossed) and won't let me comfort him.
He likes being picked up by me, but I think it is more so he can get up and see what's happening more than for affection.
It's not like he doesn't need attention and settling. I would describe him as quite an unsettled baby and sometimes I feel like he is constantly whinging (even when he is not hungry or tired), but I don't know what he wants. Unfortunately Mummy cuddles don't make everything better
Anyone else's baby like this?