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    Default Do you agree that this is disrespectful?

    Ok.
    My sister still lives at home.
    She has a boyfriend. They are building a house together.
    They currently spend most weekends at my folk's house. They share the same bed when bf sleeps over.
    My parents are ultra conservative and do not approve of her sharing a bed with her bf under their roof.
    Bf has his own place and parents can't understand why, if they insist on having 'sleepovers', don't spend more time at his house. Neither do I.
    Sister is in her late 20's. She knows how the parents feel about this issue.

    I think that despite her age and commitment with her bf, she is wrong to share a bed with her bf at my folks house. Their house, their rules. That doesn't change with age.

    What do you think?

    While we're on the subject, what age do your think your children will be when you agree that they may share the bed with their boyfriend or girlfriend under your roof?
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    I think that if your parents don't approve then it shouldn't happen. As you said - their house, their rules. If they're building a house together, why doesn't she just move into his place in the meantime? He's already paying rent there and it's obviously making your parents feel uncomfortable.

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    Parents house parents rules!!! Don't think it's very respectful something I would expect from teenagers not someone of your sisters ago IMO

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    Yep i think its disrespectful. Its kind of old fashioned of your parents but who cares really. That's their right to feel that way and make those rules. I think I will let my kids have sleepovers when they are legally of age eg 16 or over and as long as their Boyfriend or girlfriend is of age.

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    I agree their house their rules (though didn't agree when I was a teenager!!). Have your parents asked if they sleep in separate rooms? I would hope that if asked your sister would respect their wishes (though realuse she might not!). Does seem odd that they don't just stay at his house more....

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    yes its disrespectful,

    as for my kids 18 would be the age, then they are adults

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    Oh I missed the second part of the question.... I would guess I might let my DD share the bed with a boyfriend from 16ish. Depends how long the boyfriend had been around though. My parents never had an issue with DH and I staying in one bed at 17 - his parents did and as a result we never spent time there. I don't want that to happen with DD. I don't believe in no s3x before marriage so it's not an issue from that point of view, just an issue with regards to DD feeling "ready"

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    I think it's disrespectful. I think if their circumstances were to change though and they were engaged or married they should be allowed to share a room despite what parents think.

    In regards to DS I think that after about 16 it would be ok provided it's a steady partner, not someone he met last week!

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    Yep disrespectful!

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    Yes it is disrespectful.

    And no sleep overs till marriage

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