Recently on the hub there have been many questions about what attachment parenting is and isn't. It seems that many people believe that you have to fit a 'profile' to be an attachment parent and you have to breastfeed, have a natural birth, babywear, co-sleep, and use cloth nappies to belong to the 'group.'
This isn't true.
I have been 'practicing' attachment parenting with my almost 3 year old since well the day she was born. I had a medicated birth, she was bottlefed from 2 weeks old and she stopped co-sleeping at 3 months old.
The point was as an attachment parent I followed her lead. I demand fed even when she was on the bottle. I never used a strict schedule or CC. We use gentle guidance.
I'd say the only true 'no-nos' with attachment parenting would be controlled crying and discipline methods that shame, humiliate or hurt the child emotionally or physically.
Attachment parents come from all walks of life. We aren't all feminists, or hippies. Lots of people would probably fit the attachment parenting lifestyle and not even know it!
Point is to be apart of the attachment parenting club all you have to do is be parenting in a way that is baby-led, takes into consideration the risks vs benefits of our choices, and continues to respect our children's needs as they grow and develop.
Attachment parenting continues after the baby phase. It goes beyond nappies and baby-led solids. It evolves. After the baby phase it means toilet-training at their pace no quick fix 3-day solutions that can take a child faster then they are ready for. It can mean home-schooling but it can also mean approaching schooling in a way that helps them adjust at their own pace and helps them feel secure. It means dealing with behavioral issues in a way that is well firm but fair and understanding that issues may not be fixed instantly like they would if you used traditional methods such as spanking.
Attachment parenting older children means allowing them to chose their own subjects of interest and careers without our influence or without pushing.