Not starting TTC until the end of 2012

[HOMS]

OMG! I spent ages typing up a reply and then my internet connection failed. I'll have to type it again later ladies. TGIF!!!

[Plan2bamummy]

Argh same with me HOMS

Nat it will be worth it in the end you sound super organized.

My other post had just said that it looks like I have a few hours extra each week with my 2nd job. I have worked for Woolworths for 12 years (since high school) and just kept it on whilst at uni and then after. A new store has opened so I could be getting some extra hours weeknights this means a few extra thousand save by the time our little one comes along. I was going to go ppt so I can get maternity but I did read that I have to be ppt for 2 years first ( frustrating considering I've done the same shift for 6 years as a casual)

[CitrusRain]

Plan2b, that sucks! I was in a similar boat when I stopped work. Couldn't get anything because I worked term by term contracts. It was a little hard adjusting to one pay at first but we got used to it pretty quickly.

Afm, having a bit of a negative day today after mentioning ttc to mum. She was with me when I was really sick and was really on my case about it yesterday. I totally get where she's coming from but at the same time I know the risks. I know it will be hard with a husband who is always away (btw, he called today and is once again delayed from coming home) and I know it will be hard with a toddler needing attention when I could be on bed rest, but I also know that it's something I want to do. Right now if I ttc in July the bub will be 9 weeks old when dh could possibly be going away for 6 months. However, that changes as often as his undies do so to postpone ttc until he has a desk job could possibly mean a 5-9yr gap between babies (depending on where his career takes him). Too much space between IMO. Right now I have a guarantee (in sorts) of him being home for the last 10-20 weeks of pg and first 9-13 weeks after bub is born and I feel like I have to jump on that. I wish everyone else would understand though. I can't wait to get home to my military family because I know they will understand. They've all been there!

Sorry about the vent, just feeling a little sorry for myself and my stupid pregnancy hating body today

[CitrusRain]

Oh and I just posted my birth story It's had a lot of the negative parts taken out but it's a pretty good account of what happened. Feel free to ask questions if you want to know more.

[Plan2bamummy]

Hugs Nat, I read your birth story. To me knowledge is power, and whilst it was a horrible experience you went through it now sounds like you a going to have a great team to monitor you so even if DH is away you will be in great care.
Your mum just sound worried, but on the other side of the coin what happens if you get a bad flu or break a leg etc and you had to rest up whilst he is away? (what I'm trying to say is there are other senarios beyond TTC that put you in the same situation so don't let that hold you back )

[CitrusRain]

Yeah that's what I think too. It's not like it's my first time around either. I know what to expect, I also may have the most perfect pregnancy and birth ever so I'm prepared for the worst but am hopeful for the best. You're right, I have a great team around me and no matter what happens I won't be alone. I really feel like this is the time and I need to jump in with both feet. Well I guess I've answered my question then hey? Off to take my vitamins

[futureherder]

Hello all, long time so speak. Yet again I have been studying my little bottom off and haven’t had time to talk. I have tried to reply about 4 times and each time I have to do something else! Anyway I am at work so can afford to waste some time lol in my defence I am stuck on the phone!

Blackash – Wont be going to FPH again, the hospital is lovely but I was not happy with the hospital to OB communications, they ignored basic pain management instruction from my OB. Did not contact her when I collapsed. Apparently there was a lot going on in the back ground and a lot of disagreements about surgery space etc (this is all gossip though) anyway I spoke with my OB and asked where all of the OBs etc give birth in Melbourne and she said St Vincent’s so that is where I am going. It doesn’t have a high level NICU but if I went in to labour early I would be taken to a hospital with a higher level NICU. Also if there are any unforseen complications I have faith that they could provide very good care until bubs could get to a higher level NICU. DP parking at Melbourne uni. It would have been smart but he was so stressed about getting lost etc also he was coming in at midnight to stay with me because that was when he got off work. I think it is worth getting the car seats and cot first hand and good quality unless you are getting it from a family member or a friend you can really trust. Apart from that I would get everything else second hand. Particularly the pram, there are so many people who buy 3 prams and ten on sell theirs barely used. DD was in with as for the first 6 months however we still made a nursery for her and it sat empty and not quite finished for a while lol I wasn’t sure when we were going to put her in there though and didn’t want to be organise a nursery with a NB. Anyway we have a ‘family’ bassinette once DD was in her cot I moved it to the lounge and she had some day naps in there J so we managed to use it until she was about 8 months I think. It could have been for longer because she was very small for her age. I am getting a Moses basket this time. I would have loved to co-sleep because it would have made life a lot easier but I just could not sleep if she was in bed with me I was terrified of squishing her. We are thinking about getting the arms reach cot which is a smaller cot that can be safely attach to the bed side cart style...maybe have a look at those? It looks like a porta-cot not the most attractive thing but for me it would mean the best of both worlds. I am on Swisse pregnancy vitamins. After doing the research and taking in to consideration how they treated the vitamins I thought these were best. I think they are a waste of money if you have a balanced diet as long as you are taking folate and iodine as well. However I don’t always have a balanced diet and when I am pg and have m/s I really don’t, so I am happy to take them. I need to cut out caffeine and processed food after the smoking thing...I think doing it in stages is a great idea J plus I really like getting excited about herbal teas and actually bring a teapot in to work and making it fun.

Nat11 – I have heard that Latrobe is really good, expensive (because you have to purchase family cover to cover bubs I thought anyway) but really good in relation to waiting periods. Going through the miscarriage was hard, there were a lot of demons in me that I didn’t realise and having a missed miscarriage and trying to miscarry natural meant I knew the bub was dead at 6 weeks but carried until 12, which I think I mentioned before. However 12 months on the miscarriage has changed who I am for the better. I thought having DD would change me but the miscarriage did more I think. I have become more easy going and take a different approach to life plans. I am happy and my relationship is better. I wish we could have had our little baby in January but there was obviously something wrong with bubs as it stopped growing at week 5-5 which is when the NT is formed so if anything is really wrong with then bubs usually dies. I am sure it was for the best. That was very hard to accept at the time. DD didn’t sleep through until 24 months so I don’t think I can keep that as my bench mark for moving her in to a nursery lol I love planes would love to do that if I had a boy. I would love vintage planes. DDs theme of her room from blue and cherry blossoms. I was very anti pink when she was born. I love the name Olivia it is such a cute name. My cousin is name Jamie so I am biased towards that name J he was a great cousin when I was little, I don’t see him anymore sadly he was much older then me. It sounds like you have a fantastic team to support you with your next pregnancy. It does sound confusing though. I am sorry you were having a down day and that DP has been delayed again, when do you think he will be home again? I am sure your mum is just concerned for you and at least her bringing it up is making you think about it again and it sounds like you have made up your mind and you can be more confident in that decision. From what I have seen with military families life has to go on, it is a huge sacrifice and I am forever grateful for that sacrifice. If I really wanted another baby and I knew that DD could be cared for if DP would not be there and I was on bed rest then I would do it! I have not had a chance to read your birth story yet grrr.

Plan2bamummy – I know the flu vaccine can be passed on during pregnancy which is why they are pushing it because NBs can no longer get the flu shoot so it makes sense to get them ‘vaccinated’ in utero and they can be protected up to 6 months after birth which is a critical time if babies get swine flu or a bad flu before 6 months. I don’t think whopping cough goes across the placenta barrier. I want to get it before getting pregnant because if I catch whopping cough a week before I have bubs I could pass it on to them, I would rather be protected well before hand. I am personal anxious about getting vaccinated in general let along during pregnancy...I still have a lot to think about. If you can fit the cot in your room I would go with that! Wow the cost of public births have gotten so expensive, I have many friends who it cost them nothing but if you have shared care and your GP doesn’t bulk bill even with the rebates it all adds up. Also I get a scan every OB visit when I go private if I go public I only get 2 scans (3 if breech or placenta previa etc) otherwise I have to pay. That is so unfair that you will need to cover the 12 months again even though you have already worked there, stupid casual to pt change. I know casuals get more money but seriously...

HOMS – Oh no, I hate losing replies...what have you been up to anyway?

AFM – Even though I have been thinking about where #2 would sleep when DD was only a little one I still have not made up my mind. DD did not sleep through until 24 months. It was a pain in the @rse! I wish we had the room set up so that she would have been in our room safely instead I was up and down 1-3 times a night until she was 2!! I am still doing it now but only 1-2 over a two week period (thank god!) So I wanted to put bubs in a side cart setup and room share until they were ready to leave...then I wondered if that would cause more issues??? I would prefer bubs to be with us until 12-18 months and then move them in to a nursery?? However I wonder if that would be too upsetting for a good sleeper? We wouldn’t change the bedroom just bring in something to change bubs on and maybe put up a little decal quote so it looks a little baby related. I think I might just get a Moses basket and then if bub settles well I will aim to move them out at 6-12 months but if bub is a bad sleeper I will bite the bullet and get the arms reach cot.
Feeling good about the whole TTC thing which is good! Really starting to look forward to trying and talking about names. DP and I cant really decide on any!! I love Lorelei and he hates it. I like Atticus and he hates it. I guess I will wait and see but I am occasionally jumping online and randomly searching for names that I like. I am sticking to the nor smokes for breaks this week and then next week I am going to cut back to no smokes until lunch (12) I wake up feeling quite good with energy and then as soon as I have a smoke I feel yuck and tired. This is really motivating me to quit. I might book an appointment for Friday to get all my bloods done and ask about whopping cough. I will get the whopping cough one after my exam because I can’t afford to get flu like symptoms while I am studying but I will get it before TTCing. If I have to get any others then I will get them depending on the side affects either now or after my exam. It could delay TTCing though...ah well I think I just need to wait until I get the results. I am off to have my second root canal tomorrow, this will be the last one before they re build the tooth. Then I need another 2 appts for another root canal and then I will have another 2-3 for fillings and cleaning. I really cant see me getting this all done before TTCing. Hope everyone else is well.

[Plan2bamummy]

Hi Future,

I hope the root canal went well (as well as they can I mean )
Good luck with exam.

DH and I are starting to talk names, we have heaps for little girls, but very few for boys so hard.

I was bored at work so I checked my leave today, I'll have 22weeks ( of maternity leave and annual leave) so inc federal government pay I'll have 40 weeks ( can take 22weeks part pay - so 62 weeks off).

Only 6 more cycles until we are going to be actively trying ( in 4 more it won't be bad if a surprise happens)

How is everyone else?

[shadowangel0205]

Hi ladies!

Can i join u all here??

I live in the SW corner of Vic, and currently have a 14mnth old bubba. We're looking at TTC #2 towards the end of this year. Thinking maybe 5 more cycles on the pill, then letting nature take its course. We're aiming for a 2.5yr age gap.

Before TTC#2 i really want to loose some weight, im a few KGs heavier now than when i fell with DS but it wasnt an ideal weight, so hoping to change that. Would love a bub born July-November ideally if i could choose But ill accept a healthy bub regardless of its arrival time.

[Plan2bamummy]

Hi Shadow and welcome I'm also hoping for our baby to be due sometime between July and October next year.