share a book (11-02-2012)
I thought it was good. She has obviously publicly defamed them before, and he points out that the woman who comes to clean, that she called the cleaning lady, does it to say thanks for what they do for her, so I would guess he was also defending her. Also from what he said, she said some pretty nasty stuff about her mother.
I think he showed her how it felt, and there is a follow up also, he gave her the chance to respond if she liked. I think good on him
Caviar - are you seriously defending this guys abusive parenting? Using intimidation and violence as parenting methods is not something to be applauded, it's abuse. Emotional and verbal abuse.
And it's gone viral!
What happens to this girl when she's 25 going for her dream job and her pitentional employer googles her name and this comes up.
I was a brat at times but my parents never took a hand gun to any of my possessions.
I'd prefer my children know the reason for why it is that they're behaving in a particular way - ie WHY they should behave that way - rather than just doing it because they're scared of the abuse they'll receive if they don't play by the rules. Children and adolescents who obey rules because they're scared of the consequences break the rules as soon as they're not being watched (as proven by this girl's actions). Children who are aware of right and wrong and behave accordingly because they don't want to do the wrong thing may very well still break the rules - but at least they'll know why it's wrong.
Punishing somebody for being immature by being immature is just...ridiculous. Sort of like hitting a child for hitting another child. Or biting a child for biting you. It teaches nothing except for that the person who is biggest/strongest/most powerful is allowed to behave in the ways that are banned to the child.
I don't see the behaviour of the teenager as having been in any way near (let alone worse) than the behaviour of her father. Sure, if he'd wanted to let her know how her words had impacted him, the step-mother, mother, and woman who helps out with the cleaning, and take away her access to FB - or monitor it more closely - I wouldn't have a problem with that. That would be appropriate boundary setting.
But throwing an adult-sized tantrum (which is definitely NOT age or developmentally appropriate) in response to his daughter's tantrum (which is well within the norms for both her age and developmental level) and destroy property that he had given to her for her usage (regardless of whether she legally owned it or not) is just atrocious behaviour which will teach her nothing but to be afraid of speaking out against anything that she finds unjust - lest she find herself at the mercy of another abusive and violent attack from her father again.
america's culture when it comes to guns is completely different to ours.
and while i personally would never do what he did, i do understand he was at his wits end and used it as a shock tactic.
he did not abuse his daughter, merely destroyed a piece of property to prove a point in my opinion.
Was there a need to quote my opinion, really.
Quite frankly, it looks like he did that the first time round, resulting in grounding, she obviouly learnt nothing.
Next time don't bother quoting, the title of this thread is a WDYT, not a WDYT and attack everyone elses opinion
Lots of parents are at their wits end and don't pull guns, and I've seen lots of Americans who are equally outraged by this fool's actions. At your wits end then act like a parent. You can't expect your child to behave in a mature and responsible fashion if you fail to do so yourself.
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