I agree with Tam.I didn't twist anything. I quoted exactly what you said and responded to it.
I'm a psychologist I don't agree with you. They don't have 'unequal' brain functioning - they have immature brain functioning. That's not the same thing at all. And I suspect that the difference in philosophical approach toward children is what's causing the difference of opinion here. I believe that children are fully functioning human beings with more rights to be respected and protected than adults - who are actually capable, in the absence of disability, of standing up for themselves.
I don't agree with your approach - I don't punish poor behaviour, I set boundaries around it. I also teach by modelling. If I want my children to behave respectfully, I behave respectfully toward them - and we talk about disrespectful behaviour when they aren't managing. If they continue to not be able to manage to achieve what's being modelled and explained to them, the stronger boundaries go into place - ie they're asked to remove themselves from company if they can't behave in a socially acceptable manner.
However, that's actually all besides the point. What this man did was not punishment - it was public humiliation. It wasn't boundary setting - it was tantrum throwing. He did not intent to teach her a lesson, he intended to hurt her in the exact manner and fashion that he had himself been hurt by her. She modelled his behaviour - exactly - and then was punished for behaving in the exact way which she had been taught to behave - by the person who had taught her to behave that way.
How is it that a child can know what 'respectful behaviour' is if they've never had somebody behave respectfully toward them?
Again, I did not manipulate anything - I quoted exactly what you wrote, and responded to it. If you find that offensive, I suggest that you engage in some self-reflection.
It reminds me of when people hit their child because the child hit another child. Erm? It's obvious what the father's intent was.