My 4 year old DD has been getting into trouble a lot at Kindy. She has been at daycare before but this is her first time going FT as I am starting a job on Monday. It is almost the end of February and EVERY day the teacher has had something to say about my DD outright defiance and total disrespect for her. I am realistic about my DD, I know she is not perfect, I encourage the teachers to be open and honest with me, otherwise I can't work with them to help my DD development. BUT, she is never this naughty for me. She does naughty things, sometimes she doesn't listen but I get the feeling I am a lot more lienient than this teacher is. I respect her putting in place rules such as "no running inside" but when DD sees me in the afternoon, and she runs over to the door to greet me, I am a bit disconcerted that the teacher then says 'oh, mum, we've just ruined a good day by running inside'. Am I being precious in thinking that there is no need for a comment like that. I mean, she is 4. She is excited to see me. She has spent the WHOLE day trying really hard to listen. Why does that one little slip up erase all the good work?
But, I am more concerned about my child's abject defiance and disrespect for this woman's authority. I am trying to think of a way we can work together to help my daughter learn the skills she obviously needs to survive in this classroom. I have had a look at Kids Skills but need something I can put in place a bit more... well... immediately. Does anyone have any ideas?
I should probably also say my DD is an only child, there are no cousins etc to interact with, she is around adults a lot of the time. My discipline style? I don't really have one, I guess. I just ask her to do something or explain why something is happening and that is it. Yes we have tantrums but I just ignore them. If she doesn't listen to me I tend to just repeat myself until she does it, I have no problem waiting for a toy to be picked up. I suppose I tend to do the 'natural consequence' thing. But I don't have the patience for 'time out'.
Welcoming all ideas, can give more information if needed