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    Quote Originally Posted by notthatgirl View Post
    Oh hun - I feel your pain. My eldest daughter (now almost 5) was just the same and I honestly thought I was going to lose my mind with her.

    She cried... ALL. THE. TIME. Actually - not just cried, but screaming, screeching, squealing cried. I love her. But she drove me mental.

    While not a cheap purchase, we bought a swing in the end, as this really helped sooth her (and for the most part - nothing else did). I was also very anti-dummy - but in the end gave in and the sucking seemed to help her too. I believe she had colic - like OJandME said, have you maybe talked to the GP about that or reflux or the like??

    I agree with the above though - do not stop going to the groups and social things.... You need time out of the house for your own sanity or you might end up feeling resentful.

    Not sure I've helped - but know you're not alone and that it DOES get better
    Ok I've heard about people having success with those Fisher Price swings. I will look into it. It certainly can't hurt and at the very least it will be another toy for her to keep occupied with

    Do you mind me asking at what age you saw a change in your DD? I know it will be different for everyone but was just wondering if she will be on the more difficult side throughout toddlerhood too?!

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    You've described my dd2 to a T and my now 4m old dd3 to a T except the carrier part, that's her ultimate cryptonite!

    I know it's hard, I have NO family around, no baby sitter a hubby that works 24/7 and have only just met a few ppl who I don't even feel comfortable around in the last 6m.

    Just know your not alone!

    You just make do!

    Find what works AND STICK TO IT! I have dd3 in a carrier on my boob all the time, it works she will grow out of it eventually! Try get sleep in the day when she does. I have just joined a gym. I get 45m to myself of a morning. The ladies love her and it's a way to meet new people. I feed her, pass her over then as soon as I'm done I race in to feed her again. Learn to go with anything, stressing just makes things harder..


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    Quote Originally Posted by mim1 View Post
    It really does get better.

    My ds screamed most of the day & night, when he wasn't feeding. That's what it seemed like anyway (he had reflux). I struggled to get out, but I actually found he was better out & about than at home and I was happier to not be staring at the 4 walls & listening to a screaming baby.

    My M&CHN recommended trying to reduce outings to once every 2 days, rather than every day and I found that really helped with the overstimulation. He screamed SO much more if he was overstimulated. So, we planned outings with a 'day off' in between, where at all possible.

    A swing was a fantastic thing for us too! We got one when our ds was 4 months old and it made a massive difference. We used it from day 1 with our dd and wow, it made the early days so much easier!

    And I'm a big fan of wrapping (I use a Woombie for my dd) cause it helps bubs feel secure and it's a great way to teach a sleep association. I also recommend a dummy if possible. Both might help you get her to sleep when you're out at Mum's group/etc.

    Remember that sleep breeds sleep, so try & get her to sleep by any means possible whenever you can (which you probably do already). An overtired baby is a seriously grumpy baby. Sometimes that's unavoidable, but if bubs gets tired, then work hard on allowing bubs to sleep as much as possible for the next day or so.

    It really does get better from here on in though. Really it does.
    I totally agree about feeling better when you go out, even with a crying baby! I go mad staying at home all day, and I don't think it does DD any good either as she gets bored too.

    Re wrapping, DD has started to roll in the last few weeks so now we only wrap her arms when we are putting her into her bouncer chair for a nap. She manages to get her little hands out now though I did actually try introducing a dummy a few times but she didn't seem that interested. It is a good idea though as if she would take one it would help at Mothers group etc if she likes it. I might try introducing it again, although it might be too late now? Worth a go I guess

    And as for naps I do try and get her to have regular naps, but she really resists sleep! She is definitely easier if she has had a good sleep, but most of the time she just has catnaps. I try to extend the nap by bouncing or feeding her through the sleep cycle, but it doesn't always work. I spend a lot of our time at home trying to get her to sleep and to sleep longer.

    Thank you for the support

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    Okay... I'm back. (Sorry I had to log off quickly before as it started pouring rain and all my washing was on the line!)

    Yes Dh is recovering...

    Anyway.. DS4 cried constantly, did not sleep. Was waking 6-8 times a night, only cat-napped during the day and screamed constantly when he was not with me.

    It was/is just his temperament. He got to about 15months and started sleeping through, which made a huge difference.

    He's 3 now and the sweetest, funniest kid and super clever.

    He's one of the best sleepers in the house now and snores like a trooper.

    It will get better... be strong and try to take time out for yourself when you can.

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    You've described my dd2 to a T and my now 4m old dd3 to a T except the carrier part, that's her ultimate cryptonite!

    I know it's hard, I have NO family around, no baby sitter a hubby that works 24/7 and have only just met a few ppl who I don't even feel comfortable around in the last 6m.

    Just know your not alone!

    You just make do!

    Find what works AND STICK TO IT! I have dd3 in a carrier on my boob all the time, it works she will grow out of it eventually! Try get sleep in the day when she does. I have just joined a gym. I get 45m to myself of a morning. The ladies love her and it's a way to meet new people. I feed her, pass her over then as soon as I'm done I race in to feed her again. Learn to go with anything, stressing just makes things harder..


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    Quote Originally Posted by rosycheeks View Post
    Ok I've heard about people having success with those Fisher Price swings. I will look into it. It certainly can't hurt and at the very least it will be another toy for her to keep occupied with

    Do you mind me asking at what age you saw a change in your DD? I know it will be different for everyone but was just wondering if she will be on the more difficult side throughout toddlerhood too?!
    I remember about 6 months things started to improve... but as was said above - looking back I think it is temperament coming through too. The screaming fits as a baby echo the meltdowns she had later on. Yes, she was a difficult toddler, but.... you get through it, I guess? She is also the sweetest girl, too smart for her own good

    Sorry, that sounds terrible! But really - the everyday screaming and constant need for you will fade and she will become more independent when she is able to get down and explore on her own - that's what I found...

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    Quote Originally Posted by shinebrite View Post
    You've described my dd2 to a T and my now 4m old dd3 to a T except the carrier part, that's her ultimate cryptonite!

    I know it's hard, I have NO family around, no baby sitter a hubby that works 24/7 and have only just met a few ppl who I don't even feel comfortable around in the last 6m.

    Just know your not alone!

    You just make do!

    Find what works AND STICK TO IT! I have dd3 in a carrier on my boob all the time, it works she will grow out of it eventually! Try get sleep in the day when she does. I have just joined a gym. I get 45m to myself of a morning. The ladies love her and it's a way to meet new people. I feed her, pass her over then as soon as I'm done I race in to feed her again. Learn to go with anything, stressing just makes things harder..


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    Oh wow you have 2 like that! That must be tough, well done for coping

    I would be happy to stick her in a carrier at home but she doesn't like being in it at home any more. She always wants to be held facing out these days and my carrier is a Manduca and only faces in for front carrying. Hmmm come to think of it maybe I should get one that faces out, but I didn't want to get a Baby Bjorn as I've had back issues and heard they're not the best ergonomically.

    I would love to go to the gym like you but am scared to leave her in the creche. When my parents visited and babysat she cried for 2 hours straight and she knew them

    I think we were in the same due date group. Shame we are not in the same city as we could get together for a high needs playdate

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    Quote Originally Posted by OJandMe View Post
    Okay... I'm back. (Sorry I had to log off quickly before as it started pouring rain and all my washing was on the line!)

    Yes Dh is recovering...

    Anyway.. DS4 cried constantly, did not sleep. Was waking 6-8 times a night, only cat-napped during the day and screamed constantly when he was not with me.

    It was/is just his temperament. He got to about 15months and started sleeping through, which made a huge difference.

    He's 3 now and the sweetest, funniest kid and super clever.

    He's one of the best sleepers in the house now and snores like a trooper.

    It will get better... be strong and try to take time out for yourself when you can.
    Ahh your story gives me hope, sleeping through would be nice, DD sounds the same as your DS sleep-wise. I had very disturbed nights during pregnancy and haven't slept through for a year now!

    I do lie down and feed her once a day to get a rest and she tends to have a longer nap then, which helps.

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    Quote Originally Posted by notthatgirl View Post
    I remember about 6 months things started to improve... but as was said above - looking back I think it is temperament coming through too. The screaming fits as a baby echo the meltdowns she had later on. Yes, she was a difficult toddler, but.... you get through it, I guess? She is also the sweetest girl, too smart for her own good

    Sorry, that sounds terrible! But really - the everyday screaming and constant need for you will fade and she will become more independent when she is able to get down and explore on her own - that's what I found...
    It doesn't sound terrible at all. I kind of gathered from the Dr Sears book that this is just DD's personality coming through, like you say. I know I must sound very negative about DD in this thread, but actually there are so many wonderful aspects of her personality already shining through, and I absolutely adore her. She gives me and DP many beautiful smiles and laughs, it's just that she saves them all for us and rarely lets anyone else see them

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    Rosycheeks I was exactly like you, new bubba on my own with little (practical) support.DS started sleeping through at around 5 months, so she may start to sleep through pretty soon. He also co-slept with me as I found this far easier for us both (breastfeeding) and comforting to him (attachment parenting I suppose). Also, I found a sling was awesome - she may just need tgo be on you all the time and a sling is very soothing for babies. I LOVED mine.Your bub is 4 months - babies don't need extra stimulation this young anyway. I was totally focused on having a peaceful, calm, quiet environment at that time but I also got out every day! Take him out but just for short periods and around him routine. I was basically terrified of him becoming overstimulated as this plays havoc with their sleep patterns and teaches them to become bad sleepers. Having him down at the same time every night was crucial to me and it worked because he is still now an excellent sleeper. Go for quiet pram walks. Meet other people but only in quiet, relaxed settings, avoid too much noise and hectic places. It's very hard I know! But it's kinda essential right now. We just have to adapt our lifestyles to fit around the bub at first but it doesn't last forever. As they get older you get a bit more freedom.Hang in there and drop me an email if you want to chat about anything! I've been there (DS is 17 months now).
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