Sorry for the long post...
I know this will sound negative, which I regret, as DD is everything to me and makes me so happy. But she is incredibly high needs and on days like today it is hard to deal with.
She is 4 months now, and almost every time I try to get out of the house in the day she gets either tired, bored or overstimulated, resulting in fussing and ultimately, crying. I am a first time Mum who is new to this area, so have joined a Mothers' group and Mums and Bubs activity classes, but every time I end up having to leave halfway through, or worse 20 minutes in because she has enough and cries.
Even going for a walk just me and her she only seems to tolerate 25 minutes or so, then makes it clear she's had enough and tries to throw herself out of the carrier backwards! She will only go about the same length of time in the pram. Unless she's very tired, in which case she will fall asleep for one sleep cycle. 33 minutes exactly She would never fall asleep if I'm out at a group etc as it's too stimulating for her.
I don't have any family here or anyone I feel confident to babysit her. Even when she's been with the grandparents (they don't live nearby anyway) being held or when they visited and babysat for a few hours she always gets distressed/refuses to sleep for them/gets overtired or wants to come back to me.
Today I am also sleep deprived as she still wakes up multiple times a night. Bedsharing with her has been the only way I can get a half decent amount of sleep some of the time. She is also up at 4am every day. Most days I do get enough sleep to get by though.
So for people with babies like this (if there are any others out there!) how do/did you manage to get out of the house and have even a tiny social life when your baby behaved like this? I know she's only very little still and I don't expect to be able to be out on the town every day, but both me and her go crazy couped up inside all day. Help?!