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    He was going to take 5 weeks for this next baby (#3) but alas I'm an army wife and he's now been told he'll be going overseas to relieve someone for 3 weeks in early July so it will depend when baby arrives (due 29th June) but then we'll take a week or so family holiday when he gets back. I'll be happy if he can at least be there for the birth and the few days following to look after DS and DD while I'm in hospital.

    He missed DD's (#2) birth completely and didn't get to meet her until she was 7 weeks old and he had 10 days leave from his overseas deployment. With DS #1 I was lucky and had him for 4 weeks because DS was born in Jan just before we headed off interstate for a new posting.

    Ideally I think for the first baby at least a couple of weeks would be nice as you both adjust to parenthood. Otherwise DH really has no idea what you are having to cope with each day and you could feel a little alone. With a C-section even longer would be better unless you have other family who can help. My sister recently had a C-section with her first baby and unfortunately her DH who is a chef had little time off and was working both a day and evening job. She was alone in a 2 storey townhouse with a new baby feeling overwhelmed and struggling with BF issues and still in alot of pain and not coping at all. Lucky we are currently living in the same city and I could go daily to help for a few hours but it still wasn't enough. She really needed someone there all day for moving things upstairs/downstairs, to help bring her baby for feeds and do nappy changes, to get her drinks and meals etc so she could rest instead of stress.

    Also depends if your DH is the helpful type or is just going to sit around playing computer games on his 'holiday'! In that case lining up a mum/MIL or sister may be better

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    I've had 3 c/s so far. With DD, he had a week off when I was in hospy, but he had 4 wisdom teeth removed the day after I had DD. When I got home, he went back to work by memory, but he did night shift, so was home during the day. With the boys I think it was just the weekend (I got out of hospy on fri arvo). He was casual at the time of the first 3 births, but was there the day they were born, and the day after.

    This time, I am praying his permancy finally goes through and he will have 2 weeks saved up to use when I get home. As this one lands 2-3 weeks before the end of the school term, I need his help getting the kids to school

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    For DD1 was nothing, he was back at work the next day (he had no choice). DD2 he took a week off. They offered him another week paid leave but he was ready to go back to work and I was coping well at home. This one, im not sure how long he will have off. He has a massive work load now and it will only get worse over the next few months so I wouldnt be surprised if he doesnt take time off at all.

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    DP has booked 4 weeks off lucky he is entitled to 2 weeks paternity leave, this is our first.However he isn't taking any time off leading up quote he "doesn't want to use up leave sitting around waiting" lol

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    DH took one week off. I think it would have been a bit nicer to have him home a bit longer if it was possible.

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    DH is entitled to four weeks paid paternity leave (YAY). At the moment we are thinking he will take 2 weeks off from the birth, and then use the remaining 10 days once a week, so he'll have 2 months of just working 4 days a week, or something like that. We'll wait and see closer to the time though.

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    Both csections.

    With DS he took 3 weeks, I was ready to kill him come the end of it. I just wanted to establish routine.

    With DD he had 4 weeks, but was made redundant mid pregnancy, being that he was in a new job he took the day of the csection off and then went back to work. I did have my mum for 5 days post csection which I needed as I had 3 hospital nights, DH had night shifts and DS was 13mo.

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    Both c sections

    4 weeks with DS
    3weeks with DD

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    3 weeks each with the first two and will be 3 weeks with this one too

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    DP has requested 2 weeks, paid or unpaid depending on amount of annual leave accrued at that stage. His work is being okay with the tentative nature of actual labour dates.

    I can imagine I will need some space, and I can also imagine that he will be ready to get out of the house, by the time the 2 weeks is up...but I also think that as we are new parents, we will need the two weeks to get to know our baby, and ourselves as parents together.

    I can imagine in later pregnancies, that provided I had support looking after siblings in the case of cs etc, he wouldn't necessarily need to stay home as long.


 

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