so in 2010 i gave birth to my beautiful boy at 9lb 61/2oz.
VERY LONG STORY. please bare with me im desperate.
i hada VERY long labour and a long delayed second stage of 3 hours,
after my son and frequent was finally delivered by kiwi cup. i had an episiotomy and tore thru it. 3rd degree tear. the dr performed bi manual compression twice(basically held my uterus shut with his hand) i had a significant post partum bleed. and was given no transfussion. i had severe bladder damage as my catheter was not removed as my son was birthd and then was finally removed before i had sensation in legs from my epidural. 2 x bladder stretch injuries of 1 litre and then a catheter for 4 weeks post birth. very traumatic and had no real counselling after. its been 2 years and i had great physio treat,ment and some of the top bladder specialists work with me. although for 2 years i have had no bladder sensation and frequent spontanious bladder void. no known rectal sphincter damage.
now with my 2nd baby i am really struggling to feel excited as i am completely terrified. my partner and i paid alot of money to see an ob/gyn specialist privately. who said there should be no reason for definite c section. but that it may happen but to aim for vaginal delivery.
but just recieved some hurtful abrupt words from a consultant that said i was silly for bothering with a vaginal delivery.(which i really want to try) im early second trimester. and was told by this person 1 in 10 chance of sphincter damage.
i want to know others stories with 3rd degree tears and vaginal births of second babies after a tear. i am terrified and REALLY want to make an informed decision...(if csection is necessary so be it, but would like the chance to make the choice)
thank you in advance please good stories as well as bad in desperate need of support .. none of my friends have kids and dont know who to go to for advice.
thank you in advance.