I am hoping a few of you can help me out with a few questions about your littlie. Preferably in the age group 18 months to 2 years (which is where my daughter fits in age groups) I have recently had a few issues with my daughter, her behaviour and how I cope with it. I am currently seeing a counsellor to work on my own issues and try and get on top of my stress levels etc. My counsellor is putting me in touch with some parent support groups and I have an appt booked with my CHN next week. I realise every child is going to be different and that it isnt great to compare children as they all develop differently, but I just want to ask a few questions so I can get the most out of the support I am getting. Basically I am trying to work out whether the issues we are having are unusual for this age and whether we need to look at things related to that or whether what is happening at my house is completely normal at the same age group in which case the problem is more likely me and the way I cope with it and my reaction to it - which will then help me to get them to give me some help in the activities I am doing with her and my responses to what is going on if you know what I mean? Anyhow here goes - so things I want to know are:
What is/was your childs attention span like at this age? Can they sit through a straight forward activity like reading a story/drawing/a quick coffee at the shops? Significant eg half hour? 5 minutes? Non-existant?
On average how many tantrums would you say they would have in a day/week?
Is your house baby-proofed enough, eg with normal babyproofing are they fine or are they still into absolutely everything?
Are you able to use distraction effectively to stop them doing something?
If you tell them no for whatever reason and direct them onto something else will they listen and move on?
Can you do housework/baking etc at some point in the day and your LO will happily play alone or help out without having a tantrum?
What are their energy levels like?
Do you have still have big issues with everyday things such as nappy changes, getting into/out of a car, getting them to sleep?
Driving – Are you able to drive and fully concentrate on your driving without having to be worried about what the child is doing in the backseat.
Can you take your eyes off them for a minute without worrying about what they are up to? I'm not talking about not supervising them or anything I mean say you turned your back for a minute or two to wash your hands, or to take food out of the oven etc etc would they be into stuff straight away that they shouldnt be?
Do they take a long time to switch to another thing – eg if you have to go out do you have to give a LOT of notice to getting ready etc in order for them to get out without tantrums?
Thanks for your answers in advance