And that's all I'm sayin'
I haven't found someone, but I have been found...not by an actual member here, but by someone who spent a lot of time tracking me down on several forums. A little sad really as I want nothing to do with this person, and made it abundantly clear, but they still feel the need to spend countless hours tracking me down and then telling everyone.
Even worse is the fact that I'm an open person..I've said everything I've posted and plenty more IRL!
Of course I know what I'm doing in regards to forums. I don't give a hoot who reads what.
However, This girl was in my mothers group. My.mothers.group. We saw each other every week for almost a year and then at least once a month from then on.
I went through somethingincredibly painful and heartbreaking and not once did she reach out to offer support or help. She just kept quiet, and read along for...what...? She even invited me around to her house knowing everything I had been through and personal details that she shouldn't have known. Itnwas confronting and I felt violated.
I have seen her since and I am very civil and happy to remain in the group however I could never ever forge a proper friendship with someone who didn't have the strength to own up and offer their support.
She probably still reads along.
Last edited by faroutbrusselsprout; 08-02-2012 at 20:11.
I do see that and I admit maybe what I said was a bit harsh. She is very quiet and shy however I can never get past that feeling of such a prolonged amount of time going on with her knowing so much (and I do keep fairly anon.)
It just went on too long for me to be able to see it all her from her point of view.
I didnt feel comfortable opening up to her or anybody for that matter as it was so personal and I was humiliated and ashamed. BH was like my safe haven to vent,
I would have just appreciated knowing that she had stumbled across me.
I also have no idea what else she knows and who she may have told.
Hence why I do censor some things now.
Things are great now, wonderful in fact. Thanks.
Yes and I didn't tell her because she was using it as her space to go through her emotions that she wanted to keep private from those that know her IRL. I said nothing, don't stalk her and she really never posted that much in the end.
I also want to stay fairly anon on here so outing her would be outing myself. We connect with far too many of the same people for me to feel comfortable outing myself on here to her.
Oh and one that's really a bit freaky...I posted a pic on here a while back, not of my kids or anything and it showed the front path and a tiny bit of across the road in the pic. A BH member messaged me to say she lives in that house! Turns out she moved in once I moved out and my parents are her landlords. I have no idea what she looks like, and don't even remember her username anymore but that was really bizarre and no I don't stalk her.
Another BH member, I realised that my parents and her parents were friends even though we'd never met. I told her and we met up and became friends too, even though we don't see each other all that much.
Last edited by Areca; 08-02-2012 at 20:50.
I have never found anyone I know. If I did I wouldn't tell them because it would make them feel awkward. If someone found me I would prefer they keep it to themselves ,I really don't want to know.i have divulged lots of personal stuff but I realize you take your chances on a public forum. I do like my privacy but if someone I know reads it , oh well that's life.
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