Seriously FOB does my flippin' head in! To the outside world we have a great relationship, we attend just about everything related to the kids together, sports, dancing, school functions etc usually with our OHs.
I strive to keep it this way for the kids.
Underneath though its just BS.
Aside from show his face at the big things, where everyone can see, he does nothing. NOTHING!! Doesn't take them to any of their training or rehersals, no birthday parties, if they fall on his day then they stay with me and I take them, forking out for the gift of course.
He had his cousins wedding over the weekend, so he wanted the kids. No problems there. Except I had to dress them and make sure they had nice stuff to go in.
He returns DD on Sunday morning, in agony. He was supposed to take both kids to school Monday. DD has a sore, visibly swollen ear. She had been like that all day sat she tells me and he wouldn't even get her a panadol. I rush her to the GP and she has a boil in her ear. Dr tells me its quite large and would be incredibly painful. She has anti-bs. ear drops and nurofen 6 hrly.
He does this EVERY time! Every time they get sick on his watch I have to go get them and take them to the GP because he can't be stuffed. He lives about 4 minutes from us, and our GP (we all see the same one) is about 1 minute from my place. I guess I was lucky he dropped her off, although he was on his way to get new tyres and drove right past my street, he still had the nerve to ask me to drive to the shopping center and get her so he wouldn't have to stop!
Last time DD was sick I had to go get her and rush her to the ED where they thought she had meningitis!
DS has been in hosp with a dislocated elbow & a broken knee cap, after a fall off a boat, DD with a broken ankle, a foot x 2 amongst other childhood mishaps and injuries and not ONE of those times did he bother showing up. DH did. My sisters, parents and friends did. But not their father. Even though he was sitting on his @ss at home.
He pays for none of their school stuff, none of their sport or dancing, no uniforms NOTHING. Ive never received a single dollar in CS in the 8 years we have been separated. That's my fault, I'm still to cowardly to fight it, but Im also used to paying for everything for them, even when we were together Id take care of all the bills and kids things while he blew his cash on cars and gadgets.
This morning he had DS as he wanted to take him to school, but he still rocks up to the door at 7.40 am because DS had "lost" his socks Id sent him with o Saturday, he had no drink bottle and only a sandwich and apple for lunch. DS doesn't and has never eaten sandwiches. He will eat rolls, or salads. They are used to big lunches/snacks as I put dips, cut fruit or fruit cups, yogurt and biscuits in as well.
Im so fed up with having to pick up the pieces of his crap parenting. But I'll continue to do it with a smile, because my kids don't need to miss out, and I love them more than I hate him.