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  • I grew up without a bio father and I would use an anon. sperm donor

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  • I grew up without a bio father and I wouldn't use an anon. sperm donor

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  • I grew up with a bio father and I wouldn't use an anon. sperm donor

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  • I grew up with a bio father and I would use an anon. sperm donor

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  • I grew up with two mothers and I would use an anon. sperm donor

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    Default how do you feel about using anon. donor sperm?

    Do you think your own upbringing influenced this? (having an active father, being adopted, having no father etc).

    I've added a poll - please comment with what you selected and your reasons!

    I grew up with no biological father and I'd have no hesitation using an anonymous sperm donor to conceive (and I will be!) because for me, biology means squat, moreso since trying to contact my bio-father and getting no response. But I know others who were in the same situation as me and feel very much like they have a 'piece missing' despite an otherwise happy upbringing.
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    Sorry my silly phone jumped and I mucked up your poll!

    "I grew up with a bio father and would use donor sperm" is what I meant to hit. (I said without but would"

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    This is what prompted my question:

    Many women find their attitudes towards anonymous sperm donors are influenced by their conversations with friends who have been adopted. Some adults who were adopted as children feel adamant about reserving a child's right to access information about their biological parents, while others feel adoption has lead to their belief that love, not biology, is what makes a family.


    Wondering how others feel about it, really!

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    i wouldnt mind using donor sperm but would like my child to be able to find out as i freak at the idea that he could marry his cousin

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    My feeling is that the sperm used to create dd was from a relatively unknown source. Had I chosen to use an anonymous donor we would be in a similar position but without the emotional upheaval. Not to do with my own childhood at all. I believe children need love and stability, no matter their family make up or where their origins lie.

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    I grew up with a bio father and have used an anon donor. Although bubs will have the choice to meet him if she chooses. As 'anon' as it claims to be, in Vic as of 2010, there is no such thing as a true anon donor anymore.

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    Haha you missed a couple of important words for my poll choice:

    I grew up with a USELESS, ABSENT bio father and I would use an anon. sperm donor.


    I second share a books post.

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    Same in NSW. They're called 'identity-release' donors and the child can access the name and a few other details of their donor at age 18, is that the same RWS?

    I say anonymous more in the way of someone being uninvolved in their child's life during the more formative years really. But actively choosing that option over a known donor.

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    Rainbow I was thinking about this after reading your blog this morning! And last night I dreamt dh donated sperm lol.

    Anyway, yes, if we needed help ttc I would accept anon sperm. I can't answer the poll but I am reasonably close to my bio dad.






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    Sounds like the same thing rainbow I didn't know it was compulsory anywhere else. They still call them anon donors here..makes it confusing when you first start out! We can apply at any time for his details before bub turns 18, but he doesn't have to give them to her/us. But once she turns 18 and applies herself, then his details are released whether he wants it or not.

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