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    Default Son may need circ-I'm terrified about it.

    Hi,
    My son is turning 3 next week and for the past 12mths our regular GP (who has never been incorrect before) has been monitoring our son's penis after we noticed it was rather "narrow" at the tip. After months of us worrying about it, he's now referred us to a Dr Anthony Sparnon, who we're seeing tomorrow, believing he may need a circ for "medical reasons" but i am terrified this surgeon will say he needs to have one.

    Our son has NEVER had an infection, problems urinating or any pain at any time (that's he's told us of). The only problem we can see is that his penis "balloons up" when urinating and his urine "sprays out" rather "flows" down. So i am concerned that my partner and i would be doing the wrong thing if we did elect to have the procedure done.

    My partner & I don't believe in circ's, unless it's absolutely necessary (medically required). We have no problems with people getting it done and realise it's all personal choice, but for us personally we believe it's fine left intact as long as it's cleaned properly etc.

    I've read the posts in this section, and certainly feel like i can speak to the surgeon tomorrow about this in more depth, but has anyone else been in a similar situation to us?

    I've got one friends whose son's were circ'd by this surgeon, but i cannot locate any info on this surgeon (who is rather high in the medical field) on the internet, unlike his E.N.T specialist when our son needed grommets, so i think the lack of info is also making me rather terrified.

    Looking for suggestions/info, good or bad.

    Thanks

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    My son was circ'd for that exact reason at a similar age (although it was something we considered at birth). I was a mess with worry but he was fine. All the best.

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    what sort of pain did ur son go through afterwards? (i know everyone is different)
    did ur surgeon speak to u about a "partial circ" where they just do a cut to open it up a bit?

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    My son's foreskin was like this for a while too. My GP said as long as he didn't get infections and that the urine was capable of flowing out the problem would rectify itself over time. Also he told me to encourage my son to "play" (for lack of a better word ) with the tip of his penis when he was in the bath as this naturally helps to loosen things up. Failing that we were going to use a special cream (I can't remember the name of it but will look back through paperwork and see if it is written down anywhere) but in the end the problem simply went away with time. He is now 6 and has never suffered any infections or any other problems with it. Best of luck.

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    They never mentioned a partial circ. Unfortunately the surgeon didn't do it properly so he had to get it fixed (more skin was taken off) by another surgeon when he was about 5 or 6 but both times he only had panadol and minimal pain & we have never had any problems since. If you have a friend who has used the surgeon before that would make me feel more confident. My son is now 13 so times have changed since he had it done.

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    My son's did this when he was a toddler and he did get a bit of pain now and then. I treated the pain with something prescribed (can't remember what now) and he's been fine since (he's 13 now). He was also advised to play with it in the bath as per PP.

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    OP are you talking about ballooning? It's very normal, particularly at his age - it's a sign that the foreskin and gland have begun to separate.



    Ballooning


    Many intact boys experience a phenomenon during urination illustratively called “ballooning.” This occurs when some of the urine that is being passed fills up the end of the foreskin for a few seconds, like a balloon. It can be surprising or even alarming for some parents to see this, causing some to worry that their son’s penile opening is too small.

    The opening of a healthy intact penis is very tiny, naturally, like a pinhole. Ballooning merely indicates that the membrane between the glans and the foreskin is beginning to separate naturally. Because urine is sterile and contains no bacteria when it leaves the body, ballooning does not cause infection.



    http://www.drmomma.org/2011/06/ballo...act-child.html

    http://www.nocirc.org/publish/4pam.pdf

    http://www.blissfulbirth.com/index.p...d=13&Itemid=10

    There are plenty of resources out there describing ballooning and its normality.

    I don't understand the concern if he has never had any issues with it? Honestly, I would just leave it if I was in the situation.

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    please if you talk to this other doctor do not make a decision right away, they are very good at scaring parents dont let them listen to what they have to say (I wouldnt even go but that is me) and do research you can always take it off but cant return it if you realize you made a mistake. I feel you will regret it as there is nothing wrong with your son. Why is the Dr so fixated on this if he has had no problems? The foreskin is suppose to be narrow and not open if he can pee he is fine.

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    i just accidently thanked a post and the app wont let me remove it =/

    op ballooning is common in uncirc'd bubs, alot of doctors dont know this and view it as a problem, if your ds isnt experiancing pain or infections i would leave it, but i'm not a doctor so only you can decide

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    I agree with all PPs although I have another facet to add.

    During my university years I had a (lovely) relationship with a guy who had the same issue since birth, and it hadn't resolved.

    His main issue was when getting an erection, the skin was too narrow to correctly move backwards to accommodate growth. Sex was painful unless taken very gently, and it had caused significant stress for him in past relationships.

    Because there was no infection issue, it was classed as a medical problem, and the correction was a very expensive elective procedure. In his late teens, when the issue began, he wasn't keen to raise it with his mum, so psychologically it really escalated. It was difficult enough to get him to visit a GP in private!

    Eek, phone battery about to die, but another side to think about. Good luck!


 

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