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    What if he has some plan to get around the work hours thing? Would that be approved do you think?

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    How long have you lived where you currently reside and have the kids been in the school/daycare for the same period? If they are 'established' where they are, you can show connections to the community then this will be looked upon favourably. Painful but the longer this continues then the longer the kids will be in a settled routine iykwim.

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    We've been here for a month and DS2 started daycare almost immediately and DS1 started back at primary school last week. I think XH is wasting both our money in pursuing this.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tasma View Post
    He asked to have the boys this weekend as an extra because he had family celebrations on and I agreed cos I always got along really well with his family and think it's nice for the boys to be involved in that sort of thing but from now on, if he wants them for a weekend that isn't 'his' then we're swapping a weekend, I'm not giving him any extra.

    He had the audacity yesterday to hand me a shopping bag with new clothes in it and ask me to swing past the shop he'd bought them from and try and get a smaller size. Stupid me wasn't strong enough to say 'get stuffed and so it yourself' so I took if from him but I'm not doing anything with it except to give it back to him tomorrow.
    Honestly I could have written this myself! My ex is going overseas for a few weeks at the end of february so wanted to have DD 2 weekends in a row before he goes and it really is a lot for her, traveling that far and she just comes home exhausted. When I raised my concern he said they were having a party for his girlfriends 30th birthday which is an big deal for her bla bla, my birthday was on the 28th of January and as it was a long weekend I did the right thing and let him have DD but he said he would get her to call me, he didn't and when I tried to call he said she was preoccupied and didn't want to talk. I know she is like the when she gets distracted but he could have got her to call earlier. So I'm supposed to feel bad and let her go to his girlfriends party when I didn't even get to speak to her for my birthday!!
    Because he doesn't get to see her as much as I do he thinks he gets to dictate everything to me and when I raise any concern or disagree I'm not being "flexible" and us compromising is just me giving in, if I say no then I'm being difficult. After our disagreement about the 2 weekends in a row thing, he said he will now "map out" a schedule for the upcoming month and I will then have a week to respond and raise any concerns. He is so frustrating!!

    Sorry for the long rant again haha!!

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    Kids have never come before work. If he had a day off prior to the separation he would rather spend it with his mates than with the boys or I. That's why I can't believe he's fighting this.

    He's living in our old house.

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    I think you should know that there are definitely cases where the courts have ruled that the mother (that has moved after separation) and has been forced to move back to the fathers town or pay significant travel costs for the father to travel to the children or the children to travel to him. I can understand that wouldn't be likely had your children been in this new town for a significant amount of time, but I don't believe one month is very long. I would get more advice on this one.

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    Thanks fig jam. I know that that's a possibility :-)


 

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