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    Default age gaps for children of 'older' mums :)

    Hi
    I am 36, my lo is 7 months and we are thinking of trying again for number 2. Just wanted other 'older' mums experiences with having child number 2 (or 3!) close to the first. On one hand I would like to wait and leave a bit more of an age gap, but on the other hand I will be at least 37 by the time I have the second one, we may even want another after it, plus maybe having 2 close together could be good??
    Also, I had an emergency c section with number 1, I will probably go c section again with number 2 as they will be close together. Any other experiences with this??
    Thanks in advance!

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    i am not an older mum but i have more than enough experience with close age gaps as my first 2 were 14.5 mths apart, then 18 mths between the next two and 26 mths between my 3 and fourth (once my fourth is born) my 14 month age gap has had ups and downs as when my second was first born my first was still a "baby" so it took a fair bit of extra work for the first 3 mths to get them in to routines etc but in the long run the benefits far outweigh any of the toughness of the first few months they are very close and love playing together and my eldest helps her ie with preparation for kindy and that kind of stuff there has been times when i wish their age gap had been a bitfurther apart ie with tantrums etc but at least they basicly out grew them at the same time haahaa. my 18 mth age gap has been good mostly but they do clash a bit and they do get jealous etc but i think that is as much personality and my middle girl very much has "middle child syndrome " lol so not necessarily anything to do with the age gap and as my fourth isnt born till later this month i cant help you with her reactions to that age gap lol. i think it will come down to how tired you feel and what your organisational skills and routines are like as to how well you cope.it worked best for me to fit the baby into the older childs routine rather than the other way around and also include the older child in things like bathing, getting nappys etc and praise them to high heaven when they do help so they feel included. the close age gap is great as they get older as they love to play together and get along very well.with c- sections it will benefit you if for the first few weeks that you have friend or family support to help youtill your back on your feet again and rest when the kids do as the house work will still be there even if you lay on the couch reading or whatever while they are asleep. best wishes to you ps. if this makes little sense or is rambling etc sorry in advance this pregnancy is playing with my brain haahaa

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    Whoops I had dd at 35 and tried to conceive again basically straight away. It took 3 years. Don't waste time is my experience. I also lost one in between. The worst that can happen is that you either gd forbid never conceive or it's very close. I say get straight to it!

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    I had ds at 33, emergency c section and then I had dd2 at 34 and dd3 at 35, both vbacs.

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    @ Chew the Mintie - how long in between #1 and #2? I was told 12 months then 60% chance of having c section again. We don't want to wait that long

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    I had my first at 34 and it took me a long time to be convinced to go back for a 2nd. Had a natural birth with suction but was quite poorly afterwards. I'm now (finally) expecting no. 2 after over a year of trying (I'm 38). Mind you I'm glad it's happened now as DD is so much more self sufficient at 3 and a half, and is at kindy 2 days a week so I'll have that one on one time with the new baby that I wouldn't have had, had I fallen pregnant sooner. That's it for me though - shop is shut


 

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