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    Default We were all set for DH to get the snip and then...

    We started talking about having another... DD is 18 months and has always been a very energetic child... Really tough going at times... DS is 4mo and is a great baby, in the first 2-3 mths after DS was born it was hell... DD was a nightmare snd we vowed never again... We have no family here. But then DD seems to have turned a corner and us a much happier bub, so of course we have put the diffuculty of the past 4 mths to the back of our minds.

    So do we try again? I want to go back to uni to study Midwifry so we would have to get Preggers sooner rather than later, but im bfing DS and dont want to stop!

    Really dont know what to do. We both said if we accidentally fell pregnant again we woulc be thrilled but another part of me thinks we have 2 healthy beautiful babies, be thankful and get on with our lives. Its not like we would missing anything by not having another one. Financially we can have another...

    Opinions please!!!

    DH is booked in for his appointment in 2 weeks...

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    Well i would cancel the appointment until you are sure it is something you both want - there are obviously doubts so definitely don't get the snip for now.

    Whether you go ahead with another is up to you but keep the option open until you are certain you are done.

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    DH was due to have the snip in August and despite us having a number of discussions we were adamant we were happy with the 2 we had but when it came down to it I just couldn't have him go through with it!

    Fast forward to Nov and what do we get - a BFP - this bub was meant to be!

    Good luck with your decision, I would postpone for now.


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    I agree with MM, maybe try some less permanent contraceptions for now until you are both 100% sure with the decision.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Benji View Post
    I agree with MM, maybe try some less permanent contraceptions for now until you are both 100% sure with the decision.
    This.

    You may end up regretting it. You dont have to decide today whether you do or don't want another, so there's no harm in delaying a permanent contraceptive.


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    We were in a similar situation - we thought we were done after 2. I'd gone back to work part time and had planned on applying for grad medicine the following year. We got rid of most of the baby stuff told everyone who asked if we were having more "Nope! We're done. Two's enough for us"

    Then I couldn't shake the feeling that our family wasn't complete, so we decided to have another.

    DP had his appointment after DD3 was born and is on the wait list and we both feel fine about him getting it done now (the 50 minute car trip to the specialist with 3 kids in the back reinforced our decision lol).

    Anyway, like others have said, I'd suggest postponing the appointment until you're 100% sure
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    We did the same thing, had DH booked in when my youngest was about 8 months, but I changed my mind last minute and he canceled the appointment.

    3 years on and now I am SURE that I don't want anymore babies. I don't regret not having it done though, I'm glad that we waited. I think I needed that extra time to be sure.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MothersMilk View Post
    Well i would cancel the appointment until you are sure it is something you both want - there are obviously doubts so definitely don't get the snip for now.

    Whether you go ahead with another is up to you but keep the option open until you are certain you are done.
    This!

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    I would definitely cancel the appointment for now. If your questioning your decision and there is even a remote chance you will want another baby then don't rush in to anything for now. You can always book in again at a later time if you both decide you are definitely happy with what you have. It would be terrible to have it done and then regret it forever..

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    If in doubt, pop one out

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