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    Default How do you get over the hurt?

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    I've posted a few threads on here lately. My DH says he just doesn't feel it anymore. He is willing to give up everything, his son, marriage, a relationship with my family who he loves more than his own, and for what? I dont know. He seems to think we can just carry on playing happy families until he decides what to do. I just can't do that.

    I am so hurt. Are some people just not meant for long term relationships?

    I am going away with our bub for a few weeks, it was either that or he was going to move out. He only decided that he felt this way a few weeks ago, I feel like he is rushing into this. I don't want him to move out because if this is going to happen I want to move closer to where I have family support.

    I guess I'm just asking do you ever get over the hurt? I love this man so much but at the moment I'm wishing I could erase all the memories and switch off. That probably doesn't make sense. I'm venting.

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    Sorry to hear your going through this

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    That sucks. Im so sorry this is happening to you. Isnt it amazing the way some (usually) men seem to decided, nup, and get up and walk away while we are left dazed wondering what the hell happened while holding the kids and trying to recover and move on with life?
    To answer your question, the hurt does lessen with time. For some a long time, others, not so long. I hope you have some strong support from friends or family while you go through this. I couldnt have gotten through my separation and divorce without my friends. Huge hugs for you.

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    You poor bugger. Vent away.

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    The one thing I would ask you to think about is, if DH doesn't feel that way about you anymore, would you prefer that he just stay out of a sense of duty etc? Don't you feel that you deserve more than that? For him to be there because he wants to be rather than because he has to be?

    I once found myself in your shoes. But, due to fear, I hung on for far too long to something that wasn't there. In the long term, if he doesn't return how you feel about him, then it is YOUR best interest that it end now.

    How did it end for me? I met the most amazing woman and I have never looked back since. It's hard, it hurts so much. But, life goes on and sometimes something wonderous is just waiting around the corner for you. And there is no way you can see that right now, I know. But don't let it crush you.

    I hope you find happiness. Take care of yourself.

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    Thank you everyone.


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    Just wanted to offer some hugs first up!

    Has he said WHY or WHAT has made him feel this way?

    Is he open to counselling?

    Is there someone else?

    I hope you can sort it out, it would be a shame to end everything without even trying for some reconcilliation!

    Good luck xx

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    This is a tough one because you dont want to throw it all away but why stick around if he told you he doesnt love you anymore? I think counseling asap would help then you can make the choice


 

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