DS will be 8 months in 2 weeks and is not doing so well on solids.
I started him at 4.5 months on rice cereal and he did really well until about 5.5-6 months. He pretty much flatly refused to have any solids at all, so I just started leaving finger foods on his high chair and let him experiment. He is really happy to pick up pretty much anything I put in front of him and have a chew, but he doesn't really ingest much. He kind of chews and then pushes it out with his tongue. I had him weighed today and he has dropped from the 30th to the 10th percentile.
We have seen a dietician and she gave us some ideas on how to boost the calories that he is eating by adding high fat foods to his diet such as avocado and oils etc. I find this really hard to do however, as he will not take anything from a spoon. He LOVES food like watermelon and cucumber, but unfortunately these aren't going to make him put any weight on. He is pretty good with lumps and different textures. I think it is the experience of sitting there being fed by me from a spoon that bothers him rather than the actual food. Even though I always try and relax, make it fun etc and eat in front of him so I am modelling what to do.
I have tried using foods such as capsicum and apple as a spoon to scoop food into his mouth which worked for a day or two until he realised what I was doing. I've tried different spoons and different bowls and often just let him 'play' with it and make a mess. I have never force fed him and have been pretty relaxed with solids thinking he'd get the hang out of one day, but I am now starting to get worried and am quite fed up with preparing meals which just end up getting thrown out! I even resorted to just letting him suck the food straight from the commercial baby food pouches and can sometimes squirt a bit into his mouth if he'll let me. This worked really well a few times and it had me actually considering feeding him from a piping bag!!!
I guess I am just looking for a bit of reassurance and suggestions. He has always been a fussy feeder from the moment he was born. On the breast, the bottle and now solids. I feel like it is a constant battle to keep him gaining weight and I am exhausted!
His routine is loosely as follows:
7am - Breakfast: I offer kids weetbix as directed by the dietician, but he never wants it. Have also tried rice cereal, no luck. Tried mixing them with yoghurt, still no luck. He will sometimes have 4-6 tsp of yoghurt and then cries until I give him watermelon or some other fruit cut into fingers. Have tried toast fingers with avocado but he isn't that interested.
8am - Bottle: 150-180mls. Sleeps from approx. 8.30-10am.
10.30am - Snack: Rice cake with margarine as directed by dietician. Seems to just play with this, not swallowing much.
12pm - Lunch: If I am lucky he will have about 1/3 pouch baby food, plus cucumber sticks and a cheese stick. He drinks about 30mls water out of a sippy cup. If he has refused all food at lunch, I put formula in the sippy cup.
1pm - Bottle: 150-180mls. Sleeps from approx 1.30-3.30pm.
3.30pm - Snack: About 4-6 tsp of yoghurt, fruit, and 30mls of water from sippy cup.
5pm - Dinner: Very hard to feed at this time. I usually just place 3-4 different things on his high chair and let him go for it. Examples are cooked pasta, shredded chicken, sliced beef pattie, sliced sausage, cheese stick, cooked vegetables, avocado etc. Sometimes (although rare) he will have a few spoonfuls of commercial food from a pouch. If he eats nothing, I'll offer him some yoghurt. Also has a bit of water from his sippy cup.
6.30pm - Bottle: 210mls - usually takes two goes to finish this. Bedtime at 7pm.
2am - Bottle: 100mls, sometimes less. Never sleeps through *yawn*
I have to separate his bottle feeds from his solids by about an hour because he will refuse his bottles if offered to close to food times. I know it's not the way they advise to do things, but it's the only way I can get him to drink his bottles.
Some people turn their nose up at the food I offer him and have suggested that it was too healthy and maybe he doesn't like it and that I should give him custard, ice cream and biscuits to 'fatten him up' instead of meats and vegetables because 'at least then he'll be eating something'. I was pretty determined to ensure that he learns good eating habits from the start and never gets into the habit of eating bad foods, but my confidence has been a little shattered by his poor weight gain. What am I doing so wrong??!!!