Just thought I'd share my experiences at my local council's sleep school today. I was told by one person that 'no-one does controlled crying still', by another 'to expect some crying' and by local ABA group, 'you know what they do there.'
So was not really looking forward to it. And for good reason.
When trying to get DD down for morning sleep, she started crying 'good, that'll wear her out more.' (!)
It took 1.5 hours to get her to sleep. A lot if tears on my part and hers. In hindsight I should have just walked out but knowing that DD needs sleep during the day I persisted.
I was also advised not to feed any closer than 2-2.5 hours since last feed. When I mentioned that that advice contradicted the principle of demand feeding they dismissed it with 'just take what you need from today.'
Apparently DD sleeps 11-12 hours at night with one feed because she is exhausted from having little sleep during the day. That may contribute to her night sleeps, who knows? But she feeds well and is generally a happy baby.
I know she needs sleep during the day and will continue to work towards a solution for that, but there are kinder ways than a method which results in you wiping away the salt stains from your child's tears.
The only positive thing I took from today was a possible diagnosis of silent reflux which does explain a few things.
So people, please investigate the methods used at sleep school before going. It'll save a lot of heartache.