Cant TTC til Dec 06

[nemosmum]

DH has been asking me when can we start trying for bub no.2 ever since we bought DS home LOL. 14 months have gone by and I am starting to feel clucky again......I really do want another bub but I know that financially were not able to swing it just yet. I've done the math and it looks like we wont be able to try again until after december 2006. This makes me feel really sad, I know that money isnt everything but I just dont feel comfortable TTC and having a baby when I know that we cant afford it. Thanks for letting me share my thoughts.

Feeling sad

[poshBecks]

Trust me, if you counting on $$$, it'll never be the right time! There's always bills to pay!

[nemosmum]

That cheers me up so much LOL but your right BILLS BILLS BILLS everywhere we turn!

[cosmic]

Hi Sarah,

I've heard so many people say that if we all waited until the 'right time' to have kids, none of us would ever have them!! Even Kochie on Sunrise one day was saying that when they had their kids (quite young) you just made do. If it meant getting a second job, you did it... people didn't necessarily buy their own house before having kids etc etc... in the end it all works out.

So don't feel too down.. if you really want another one you'll find a way to make it work. I find that as long as I stay positive - somehow the universe always provides.

C.

[mim]

Hi Sarah, I know money isn't everything but do you know that from July next year you get 4000 when you have the babe? And have you checked out the family assistance estimator to see how much extra a fortnight you will get? I know when we had our second, our family assistance jumped up a fair bit.
As others have said there is never a right time financially to have another!
Good luck with whatever you decide to do.

[JanetF]

Oh gee that's hard if you really wanted another soon Like everyone else said, there isn't really an ideal time to have babies anyway And with #2 you won't have to buy stuff because it's already there! My #2 bubba will use the same clothes, sling, pram, boobs, bed, nappies and books and toys as #1. Budget bliss Hope it works out soon!

[aardvark]

I'll second there being no right time. I think it is harder to find the "right time" for #2 than #1, too.

I was waiting for the right time to have #2, and ended up with a 10 year age gap bewteen #1 and #2. We nearly fell into the same trap again, and there will be 5 years between #2 and #3.

The longer you wait, sometimes the harder it gets - #1 starts school, with the added expenses that entails, the car gives out and needs replacing, the dog gets older and the vets bills start increasing! Part of my problem was I was trying to find the right time career-wise. Everytime I'd think we had found the right time, an opportunity too good to miss would come up at work, and we'd end up waiting 12 months, at which time another opporunity for promotion would come up, and on it went.

[Angel_baby_1982]

I think people use "it's not the right time" and "I'm not sure we can afford it" as excuses. If you are in a stable loving relationship, that is all your child needs! Everything else has a way of working itself out, if you want another child, stop making excuses and DO IT! Millions of other families have made it work, YOU CAN TOO!

Best of Luck

[nemosmum]

Whenever I allow myself to think like that(money isnt everything and we could make it work-stretch the budget etc) I feel the guilt rising in my throat, Guilt that DS will miss out on things, guilt that will be down to one wage again (even though I only work two days a week, it still helps) guilt that DH will be taking all the responsibilty for $ again, guilt that were both just being selfish about wanting another baby and the list goes on and on. I think deep down I know we wont TTC until our finances are more stable and I just have to have faith that this will happen sooner rather than later (10 year gap between bubs -wow!).
I acknowledge that it really is our choice to not TTC and I should stop blaming our $ situation, coz as you all said plenty of families do it, right?