My lifestyle very much changed, and jasper fits into my new lifestyle. But this is a way better life than I had before. And actually I socialize more than I ever did before him I just do different types of things. And yeah we don't go out for dinner very often any more. But that's almost just as much a no longer double income no kids thing as it is not being able to take him places easily. Jasper is a pretty portable child - he's happy as long as he has mummy or daddy (or grandma) with him wherever we go. So he has travelled and stuff a lot. Well... Until we had to pay for his flights... Again back to the single income issue more than jasper himself being an issue.