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    Yes you read it right

    I'll try and get back later, sorry it was hard to understand.

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    I've got news for you people... If you are able to take your baby/toddler/child out to movies/travel/dinner etc without a problem, it's not because you are some uber amazing parent who's got it all figured out. You got lucky, pure and simple, to have a kid like that.

    Similarly, if your child won't tolerate lots of outings and needs a routine, you're not doing anything wrong, that's just how your kid is.

    And if you choose to make sacrifices to adhere to a routine, that doesn't make you some awesome parent either, that's just what works for you.

    And if you don't care about routine and just go on with life, then you're not selfish, that's just what works for you.

    IMHO there is no right or wrong or better or worse way to do things, just different, different kids, different circumstances, different parents. We're all just doing our best!!

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    Being politically correct does not equal having an opinion.

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    Our lifestyle didn't really change with having kids, but looking back our lifestyle was already pretty kid friendly long before we had any, we where never ones for big nights and would rather have people over for dinner then go out.
    We are lucky that we are still able enjoy and manage to do the same things we did before it's just sometimes they require a little more planning or maybe even need to be postponed


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    Quote Originally Posted by Clarabelle View Post
    Being politically correct does not equal having an opinion.
    Could you please explain what that comment means? It doesn't make any sense to me

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    For a person to say that nothing about their lifestyle had changed with the arrival of a child, I would be incredibly saddened. Life needs to change in some way to accomodate this new person who has entered your life.

    To what degree it has changed depends on your parenting philosophy, your knowledge of children and the kind of lifestyle you led prior to having children. Mostly, it depends on the child themselves.

    Life changed quite dramatically for hubby and I. We expected change but, like any new experience, we weren't to know just what changes we would have to make. We went with it and continue to make adjustments that make as many people in the household happy as possible.

    I agree with you OP, this person is in for quite a shock!

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    It's something my grandma would say!! She (and many of her generation) used to leave babies outside to 'enjoy the sun' even if they were clearly distressed and just got on with life! Mum and her siblings would just play in the streets until dinner time. We simply couldn't do that in this day and age or we'd have docs on our doors.

    My DS didn't fit into my 'lifestyle' at all. I didn't consider having a newborn a 'lifestyle' at all considering I was incredibly lucky if I got one hour of uninterrupted sleep!

    I totally get that people still need to socialise and be human Completely understandable.

    I think most families give up an income, sleep, money, time etc for children.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Savingfishfromdrowning View Post
    I've got news for you people... If you are able to take your baby/toddler/child out to movies/travel/dinner etc without a problem, it's not because you are some uber amazing parent who's got it all figured out. You got lucky, pure and simple, to have a kid like that.

    Similarly, if your child won't tolerate lots of outings and needs a routine, you're not doing anything wrong, that's just how your kid is.

    And if you choose to make sacrifices to adhere to a routine, that doesn't make you some awesome parent either, that's just what works for you.

    And if you don't care about routine and just go on with life, then you're not selfish, that's just what works for you.

    IMHO there is no right or wrong or better or worse way to do things, just different, different kids, different circumstances, different parents. We're all just doing our best!!
    I already said it was pure luck that I had one who was happy to travel and enjoyed music. My nephew loves loud music, it makes him happy when people sing to him and I gave him a xylophone/keyboard for christmas and my mum gave him shakers. He loves them best. My bro and sil were anti-musical instruments for baby, but had to adjust to entertain a hyperactive music lovin bubba. My nephew hates the car. He cries before they put him in and stops when the car is out of sight. They also like to travel, but have been away once, and it took them 2 days to drive 5.5 hours, they stopped so much, and were so exhausted the booked into a motel half way. I got lucky that dd and I enjoy the same things. I'm not one for dinners out all that often, and do not like night clubs.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Savingfishfromdrowning View Post
    I've got news for you people... If you are able to take your baby/toddler/child out to movies/travel/dinner etc without a problem, it's not because you are some uber amazing parent who's got it all figured out. You got lucky, pure and simple, to have a kid like that.

    Similarly, if your child won't tolerate lots of outings and needs a routine, you're not doing anything wrong, that's just how your kid is.

    And if you choose to make sacrifices to adhere to a routine, that doesn't make you some awesome parent either, that's just what works for you.

    And if you don't care about routine and just go on with life, then you're not selfish, that's just what works for you.

    IMHO there is no right or wrong or better or worse way to do things, just different, different kids, different circumstances, different parents. We're all just doing our best!!
    Exactly, I agree

    Also I think some people's definition of a change in lifestyle might be completely different someone else's!

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    I do agree with the sentiments that if you have an easy baby, you were just lucky. I know I didn't do anything to make DD as easy as she was (though I do think SOME decisions I made perhaps encouraged things to be that way... just a little).

    That said, that post was a bit condescending and seemed kinda aggressive.


 

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