My dd is 23months and we made sure she fit into our life. We weren't bot going o go out to dinner incase she cried or needed feeding or changing.
We didn't go clubbing or anything before we had dd but she fits into our life.
We NEVER put anything off because we had a baby or it might interfere with nap time because she didn't have a nap time and slept when she was tired wherever we might be. We have travelled by car over 40000km per year with her, gone to nitro circus with her, I used to go walking around the shops alot and she would be quite content. She has come o the movies with me since she was 8days old and I have left once because she was upset but that didn't stop me from going back.
I have friends who never took their kids to dinner or movies or any social situations and their children are scared of the cinema, won't sit down at dinner and freak out in large groups of people.
My husband and I haven't missed out on anything sine DD was born and we have only left her with my mum a couple of times for an hour or 2 so it's not like we just get a babysitter we just made sure we bought her up to be used to our lifes
I completely disagree that those who set their own routine are worse behaved. Having worked in childcare and as a nanny I can honestly say those children are more confident, happy to be in different situations an have less meltdownd
I definately agree that bubs 2, 3, 4 etc will have to fit around what the rest of the family is doing so some extent. I am mainly interested on the impact bub number 1 had, as I would assume most people have some sort of expectation on what life will be like with a baby, but you'll never really know what changes you will or won't have to make until they come along.
My kids were not big nappers - i could have stayed home all day working on getting them to nap but then i would have been a wreck. They often slept better when out and about and you know what's a really great mood improver....being out and not letting 'nap time' define your whole day. I don't 'drag them around' they enjoy being out of the house. They don't have any behavioral issues either
The suggestion that not staying home for naps makes you uneducated, inexperienced or lazy is just insulting and quite frankly bs.
I think saying a parent is uneducated/lazy or inexperienced because they choose to give their child life experiences and social experiences is quite insulting.
What happens when you have more than one child and have to do school runs, help in the classroom ect, you don't pick your child up because your babies napping??
Its such a personal thing, going out and about with kids and it so absolutely depends on the kind of child you have. Some are more challenging than others, and its often not anything the parents did or failed to do.
So many friends with 'easy' babies have told me my daughters issues are all my fault. Its really, really not, except for genetically.
meh, kids are all different. Anyone who takes their kids out all day can take mine and see how that works, while i take theirs and try to get them to sleep in a cot at a set time. A fun time will be had by all, and we will *definitely* be able to tell which one was which when they are 30
I think it's really funny when people say that because *most* times they find out it's just not the case, regardless of wether they think it is.
My babies sleep and therefore, as they have gotten older and won't just sleep in their pram, I have to organise my days around this. If we have a day or interrupted routine, it shows.
I mean, they are flexible to a degree but sleep is important and I make their naps, meal times etc a priority. It's not about what I need or want to do.
I took it to say that a child's needs, be it sleep or even just the evolving dynamic of a family should be respected and met. I didn't take it to mean that a baby/child should never leave the house, socialize or go along for the ride but rather that in having a child a parent should expect life to be different than it was and that it's our job as parents first and foremost to nurture that child.
Did I read it right?
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