If the child only should get needs not wants, does that mean his new children shouldn't get any extra than the essentials when his pay increases?
It is based on needs. Heck, according to the CSA my DS should cost me around $3,000 per year - I pay over $6,000 on out of school hours care alone p.a. They're clueless.
The thing is, single mothers are far more likely to live in poverty. It's all well and good to say dad should only pay for half of the child's needs, but what sort of person would allow their child to go without for the sake of "fairness".
It should be about the child. Not bickering parents.
What about if staying home is really important to her?
Just because a relationship doesn't work out does not mean a mother should automatically feel pressured to return to work because there is a childcare allowance in her child support! Wrong.wrong.wrong.
I'm sure your friend was paying $1000 a month because it was based on what he was earning...??
Why can't a child cost that much a month? I'm sure it helps the custodial parent with food, rent, bills, education and gives them both a greater quality of life.
Which in turn is a much better life for the child!
Lovemyfam you come across very anti custodial mothers who receive child support ( or are upset because they don't).
Ahh so it is okay if the person paying child support needs a re assessment because of a drop in income or losing a job (financial hardship) but not if a mother stays at home and raises a child who is to a new partner Double standards just a bit...
My ex does not pay anything he says he can not afford the child support. Hence my DP "steps up" and helps me support my children and he pays my family law legal bills.
It is such a hard system to make everyone happy. I honestly don't know if there can be a system that all would be okay with. So I don't know a solution that would work. The problem with this is that it is the children missing out. The children who are caught in the middle.
Fox in socks- you can put a claim through csa and then just carry on doing what you do, telling csa that you collect/pay privately, which is the truth.
Then you can get your full ftb entitlements. That's what the ex and I do- I put in a claim and csa records show that I collect privately. They do nothing further, but I have satisfied the requirement for ftb purposes.
Sometimes I spin out at how bitter the new wives feel about the men paying child support. I wouldn't even look at a man if he had issues supporting his previous children.
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