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    I have looked on bubhub but can't find another post on this so have started this thread. When baby comes in 10 or so weeks I would like to put a birth announcement in my local paper to welcome her. As a single mother with 1 ds I would like to make it special but not sure how to word it respectfully given that FOB is her dad but has made the choice to not be part of our immediate family. I don't wish to be a bish.

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    I'd just state something like "[Insert your name] and big brother x proudly welcome baby x into our family" and any thanks that you may (or may not!) wish to include...

    I wouldn't worry about FOB...he's decided not to be part of your baby's life - so excluding him from the announcement isn't disrespectful, it's just matter-of-fact. If he was there, you'd include him *shrug*.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tam-I-Am View Post

    I wouldn't worry about FOB...he's decided not to be part of your baby's life - so excluding him from the announcement isn't disrespectful, it's just matter-of-fact. If he was there, you'd include him *shrug*.
    My post was maybe a bit misleading. FOB wants to be a part of the kids lives but not part of our little family unit. I do like your wording though- simple and respectful. Thanks!

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    That is a tough one, have you discussed this with him he may tell you to go ahead and leave him out no worries that would make your decision a bit easier. Maybe do what Tam said and thank him for the support he has given you (if he has)

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    If he has chosen not to be a part of the family unit then I agree with Tam, just do the announcement from you and your DS, the three of you will be the new family unit and if he has chosen not to be part of it then he shouldn't get a say in how you word your announcement.

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    Maybe you could word it as if the announcement comes straight from your DS.

    "(DS name) is excited to announce the arrival of my new little brother/sister ....."


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    I like the idea of it coming from the brother- not mentioning either parent so can't cause arguments there...

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    I like Tam's idea. While making the announcement from the brother is cute, I don't think you should have to be left out of your son's announcement due to FOB's decisions.

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    In an ideal world she wouldn't have to deal with a man who chooses not to be a part of the family. Husband and wife would remain husband and wife, and they would love and respect each other till the end of time.

    Reality means that sometimes others think ill of you cause they don't know your side, sometimes voicing the opinion you're entitled to have is going to cause more angst and stress than it's worth. Sometimes something as simple as an anouncement is not worth an argument over when there will be more than enough situations that will drain you beyond your imagination.

    If you want to be a part of the announcement, go for it. But if it's based on what you should be entitled too, than I'd say forget it.

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    When I announce the birth of my daughter when the time comes, I won't give two hoots (and thats putting it politely) if fob feels left out. He made the decision to be left out when he left us. If he wants to put an announcement in, let him do his own.

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