Hi bubhubbers.. I really need some help!!
3 weeks ago DSS came to live with us. He is 12 years old and just started year 7 at the local school.
He was living with his mum but decided at the end of last year that he wants to live with his dad and me.
Everyday last week he came home from school saying he had good days and made a few friends and played handball at lunch etc so we're pretty sure he is settling in okay. He did say on serveral occassions last week that he was 'over' school and bored with it.. DH and i just ignored his comments about this though.. he has to go!
on monday morning (after spending the weekend at his mums) he wakes up saying he is dizzy, has a stomach ache, a sore back and hurts to lie down or sit up.
i feel a bit worried but DH says he is going to school and that's that
so i drop him off and he seems upset and storms off not even saying goodbye.
DH calls DSS's mum throughout the day and learns that DSS does this everyday and she actually got to a point where she was unable to leave work anymore he did it so often that she ended up giving in and telling him to stay home with the neighbours when he claimed ill.
i got a call from the school at 11 to come and pick him up as he had dizziness. i got there and he stood up and walked etc fine and then i became a little sceptical about his symtpoms..
i ordered him to bed when we got home and said no xbox etc just to rest so he spent the afternoon in his room reading comics in bed.
DH came home in the afternoon and we walked the dog with the kids when DSS said he felt completely better.
He ate all his dinner, desert and even watched some tv at night with us..
until bed time ... 9pm on the dot "oh wow.. my head is spinning again! i'm not feeling too good!"
DH said "go to bed, you can't come home sick tomorrow we have work and other commitments. you're going to school"
half hr later he came out of his room saying he found a scratch on his arm and thinks its going to turn into a rash.. DH and i were dumbfounded and sent him back to bed.
another half hr later he came out claiming to have bites on him which looked like spider bites - they were mozzie bites!
i guarentee you nothing is happening at the school! i even plan on talking to his teacher - i may email her as i was given her email address and ask her to monitor things just in case but given that his mum said he makes up these illnesses in a desperate plea to not go to school.. what do we do??
DH and i have never lived with DSS full time before - we are just sort of doing what our own parents did... is there a way to deal with this kind of thing? weve asked hiim if things are ok at school and he said its fine..
one of the other mums has told me that her son plays with him at lunch times and has asked to have DSS over for a bit one weekend even.
we just feel so dumbfounded that he would grip at straws like this though.. DH called his mother again last night and she laughed - she is so exhausted by years of excuses from DSS about being sick or having bites etc.. she said we just have to not pick him up from school as that is what is wants obviously..
but how do i tell the school that he is a hyperchondriac?