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    Well, I've always known. Seriously since I was 8 and had a nursery in my bedroom for my Baby Born doll and then mum had more babies and then I started nannying and after 15 years of other people's children I still want my own.

    So September it is. And it'd be earlier, but we have to save up for the cost of the procedure and buy a new car (IUI) and are moving in August.

    Good luck OP!

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    I just have one thing to say:

    No one is ever ready to become a parent no matter how ready anyone thinks they are. By that I mean at some stage there is a little lightbulb moment of realisation that oh my gosh, I am going to be someones mum/dad and I'm gonna be totally responsible for this little being. By the sounds of it you both seem to want kids eventually, if you wait til your 'ready' it may not happen at all. Maybe if you feel like now is as good a time as any, then maybe it is.

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    I always knew I wanted kids but I never felt the need to have them until an accidental pregnancy, ending in m/c.
    After that I had the 'longing' feeling.
    Seven m/c later and we finally had a successful pregnancy, although it was accidental also!

    The only regret I have is that we found out one week before our wedding :s
    No drinking at my hens, wedding or honeymoon! Lol!
    But other than that, never been happier

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    Just like RainbowRoad said. Since my brother was born when I was 7, I knew I wanted to be a mum.

    As my siblings (2) and I grew up, I was the protector, the confindante, the saviour (emotionally & physically abusive household). I loved knowing that I was making sure they were ok.

    DP and I had been together 4 months, lived together for 2 and as we had spoken a lot about our future and my PCOS and the severity and possibility of not being able to have kids the older we got, we decided to cut all contraception and see what happened. I ended up having to take tablets to help me ovulate but we did it.

    IMO, if we had waited until it was "perfect timing" financially etc, we would still be waiting and not living where we are now, enjoying our gorgeous 18month old DD and expecting baby #2 in 6 weeks.

    I am so glad we did it when we did.

    Good luck OP!

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    My only advice is to seriously consider the possibility of not being able to have children. DP and I wanted kids 'someday' but always felt the need to be a little more prepared. Then I was diagnosed with CIN III cervical displaysia and needed a significant amount of my cervix removed. The fear of this possibly having turned into cervical cancer unawares (there was only three months between pap smears for that much of a change to occur) really hit home with our plans for the future. Conceiving has since been a journey, and at 15 weeks pregnant we only hope that a healthy baby comes in July!

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    I was never interested in babies at all. Then most woman in my family started to have fertility problems even a couple not being able to have children.

    My doctor actually recommended to me to try sooner then later.

    So I never realised I wanted a baby until I was told I may have difficulty actually having one. Me and then DF started TTC straight away. Feel pregnant first go. M/c, had DD and 6 other M/C. I'm very glad we started to TTC when we did.

    Good luck!

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    We had been married 6 years when we decided that there was probably not going to be a right time. You can always have more money, be in a better financial position and have travelled more places. We however decided that fertility was not forever and that since we were in our 30's we better get cracking in case we had trouble and needed help. We wanted at least two so we just did it. We now wish we had of started sooner.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Opinionated View Post
    We had been married 6 years when we decided that there was probably not going to be a right time. You can always have more money, be in a better financial position and have travelled more places. We however decided that fertility was not forever and that since we were in our 30's we better get cracking in case we had trouble and needed help. We wanted at least two so we just did it. We now wish we had of started sooner.
    On our 2nd wedding anniversary, DH and I talked about what the next step in our lives would be and we decided that we wanted a baby. For me, that was the one thing that I wanted to do with my life. We decided, pretty much for the reasons Opinionated outlined, that having a baby was the more time sensitive and that there's plenty of time for the other things when we're older (buying a house, earning more money, travelling

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    Howdy, I thought I'd share as we have a few things in common

    My boyfriend and I have been together for 11 years and are in our 30's too. We were never really in much of a rush and always had good reasons not to - growing our business, renovating our house, trips away, two cats lol. Also we're not really the ultra gooey types, we don't get excited over other peoples kids etc... Nothing against them of course!

    Anyhow, a couple of years ago my mum was diagnosed with cancer and it gave me a real jolt about life and how time flies. It kinda kick started my non existant biological clock to the point where it had a faint pulse

    We decided not to actively start trying, but would be open to a happy accident. I'm now 11 weeks pregnant and I'd say that I'd always still had a bit of hesitation even up to the day we had our BFP. Once we found out, it took me a couple of weeks to adjust and then I feel like at 7 weeks I just hit this point where I felt ultra calm and overwhelmingly positive - like this is totally right for us and it's going to be such an amazing journey, now I can't believe we kept putting it off for so many years.

    Bottom line is expect to feel the unexpected, I kept listening to my brain when really over the last month I've learnt a lot about just going with it and feeling what's in my heart.

    Hope that helps, good luck!

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    My dh and I always wanted to have kids. We waited until we were married and I took my last pill on our honeymoon. I was 25 years old. We were hoping to have a large family. 6 months later we were referred to a fertility specialist and told my husband had no sperm.

    Luckily, he was able to take a range of supplements and we conceived our DD through our first cycle of icsi/ivf. We are incredibly blessed but it certainly wasn't easy.

    To this day I thank my lucky stars that we weren't 40 something years old that had put our careers first. Because theres a very big chance at that age dh's fertility could have shriveled up to sterile.

    My advice - go for it. You will never regret the joy that a new baby brings (despite, yes, many sleepless nights) but I do suspect there are many couples in the situation I described above that regret some of their choices (as in waiting so long) and my heart breaks for them


 

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