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    Default Is there any reason at all for hope still?

    I'm a fortunate mum of 3 lovely kids, and was looking forward to number 4, making our family complete. I'm still breastfeeding my 1.5 year old and have PCOS so can't be sure of dates. My LMP was back in November, so that is nothing to go on. Anyway I started feeling sick and very tired about 3 weeks ago so did a home PG test and got a double line which we were very excited about. I didn't rush off to the doctor straight away, but instead went on Tuesday this week. The doc sent me for a scan on Friday, just to get an idea of dates etc.
    Well they found a healthly looking gestional sac, a yolk sac and fetal pole measured 5mm - but no heartbeat. The tech dated me at 6 weeks 5 days according to the size, and said he was sorry, but with a measurement of 5mm he should definitely be able to see the heartbeat. He did a vaginal scan just to be sure, but still nothing.
    He couldn't see any blood gathering around the sack or anything so said the baby must have died the day before, which was why I still had all my pregnancy symptoms, that my body just hadn't reaslised it yet.
    Then he said to go home and wait to miscarry naturally.

    Of course it was all pretty upsetting, and I've been pretty miserable for the past few days, but I'm still feeling just as nauseous, and just as tired. So I started checking the internet for similar stories that turned out ok - of which there are lots, but most of the time they find that their dates are wrong and while they couldn't see a heartbeat it's because they had ovulated late and so weren't as far along as they thought. From what I can find, it's not always definite to be able to find a heartbeat until 8 weeks, but the fetal pole measurement is the issue in my case. At 5mm it should be pretty clear, so unless they somehow measured wrongly - which is how they then got the dates for how far along I am, I don't see much chance for hope that it will still be ok.

    I know probably the best thing to do is just go back to the doc, get referred for another scan in a week or so and see if there is any change, but I don't think I can handle going there and still seeing nothing.

    Sorry for the long post - has anyone got any positive stories they can give me, or does the fact that the fetal pole measured 5mm pretty much mean I'm going to miscarry soon?

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    So sorry to hear of your experience. Sending you a big hug. I am afraid I have no advice to give as I am only in week 5 of my first pregnancy. I am in fear of that exact experience so cannot even begin to imagine what you are going through. Definitely go back to your doctor though as they can tell you what the best thing to do or what may be going on.

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    Thanks for the reply- I do plan to go back - can't always get in straight away at my docs. It's just horrible in the meantime, and I keep telling myself that I need to greive and move on and accept it - and yet.... until I actually have a miscarriage I can't help wondering if somehow they got it wrong or just missed it.

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    It's not sounding too good hun. My bub's heartbeat could be seen at 6w5d. Did you have a BT? If so go get another one & then you can have them compared to see if the numbers are going up or down. If it's going up then there is hope, if it's going down then miscarriage will soon follow.

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    Yes I did have a blood test - right before I went for the scan, same morning. So I guess that will be waiting at the docs when I go back. Maybe it will show hormone levels were low anyway....

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    My fertility specialist told me he never sends anyone in for scans less than 7 weeks, because although you can sometimes see the heat beat, sometimes you can't.

    I would not give up hope yet - especially as your body thinks it's still PG.

    Good luck!!


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    Thanks - I don't want to give up hope- but realistically I know it doesn't look good

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    Hugs. Did you get your results back yet? xx


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    Thanks for thinking of me.
    Had another blood test yesterday and waiting for the doc to call me this morning.

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    hope it all goes well for you, sending you lots of sticky vibes xx


 

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