I'm a fortunate mum of 3 lovely kids, and was looking forward to number 4, making our family complete. I'm still breastfeeding my 1.5 year old and have PCOS so can't be sure of dates. My LMP was back in November, so that is nothing to go on. Anyway I started feeling sick and very tired about 3 weeks ago so did a home PG test and got a double line which we were very excited about. I didn't rush off to the doctor straight away, but instead went on Tuesday this week. The doc sent me for a scan on Friday, just to get an idea of dates etc.
Well they found a healthly looking gestional sac, a yolk sac and fetal pole measured 5mm - but no heartbeat. The tech dated me at 6 weeks 5 days according to the size, and said he was sorry, but with a measurement of 5mm he should definitely be able to see the heartbeat. He did a vaginal scan just to be sure, but still nothing.
He couldn't see any blood gathering around the sack or anything so said the baby must have died the day before, which was why I still had all my pregnancy symptoms, that my body just hadn't reaslised it yet.
Then he said to go home and wait to miscarry naturally.
Of course it was all pretty upsetting, and I've been pretty miserable for the past few days, but I'm still feeling just as nauseous, and just as tired. So I started checking the internet for similar stories that turned out ok - of which there are lots, but most of the time they find that their dates are wrong and while they couldn't see a heartbeat it's because they had ovulated late and so weren't as far along as they thought. From what I can find, it's not always definite to be able to find a heartbeat until 8 weeks, but the fetal pole measurement is the issue in my case. At 5mm it should be pretty clear, so unless they somehow measured wrongly - which is how they then got the dates for how far along I am, I don't see much chance for hope that it will still be ok.
I know probably the best thing to do is just go back to the doc, get referred for another scan in a week or so and see if there is any change, but I don't think I can handle going there and still seeing nothing.
Sorry for the long post - has anyone got any positive stories they can give me, or does the fact that the fetal pole measured 5mm pretty much mean I'm going to miscarry soon?