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    Okay so MIL is supposed to have DD tomorrow. DD has been excited all day about going.

    Then tonight during DDs bed time!! MIL rings the doorbell (wakes DD up) and tells DH she can't have DD till 1 instead of 10 even though she knows DD has an appointment at 2. DH tells her this and she say "oh, SIL needs me to go In town with her tomorrow".

    Omg I'm mad!!! DD is going to cry/scream and in inconsolable when I tell her she can't go now.

    I want to confront MIL about this because it's such a cruel thing to do but DH won't let me.
    She ALWAYS puts everyone else before her only grand daughter and I'm bl00dy sick of it.

    Before anyone suggests it, it can't be done after her appointment!

    Am I over reacting in being mad? If she had given me notice I wouldn't have cared but no she waits till DD is super excited!

    Arrghhhh

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    Quote Originally Posted by SuperTrooperVagiDuper View Post
    Id ring sil and ask why dd can't go too......
    DH doesn't want me to say anything

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    That does seem unfair, especially as she made the commitment to your DD before your SIL.

    I would probably just let her know that your DD is very upset she's not going there anymore and hope she gets the message.

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    I think it is incredibly rude and i'd be mad too.
    Not overreacting imo.

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    Yes it's incredibly rude and my MIL does this all the time. MIL isn't going to change so now I don't tell the kids that they will see their grandma until she turns up on the doorstep. It saves my kids getting upset.

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    Very unfair of your MIL. I remember very clearly the day my grandmother let me down like this, I was about 7. It was really upsetting. I think it's unfair of your DH not to want you to say something.

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    I don't think you are overreacting at all. Not when you think how upset your daughter will be. Selfish of MIL IMO.

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    Thanks ladies!! I'm going to stay something next time I see her. Because its not fair on DD. she is so excited!!

    I won't be saying a word to her next time!!

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    If it was one-off, then I think it's reasonable, but not if she does it regularly.

    Maybe say 'that's a shame, dd will be so disappointed, sje was really looking forward to it' so she understands the consequences of cancellation.

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    Very unfair of your MIL. I remember very clearly the day my grandmother let me down like this, I was about 7. It was really upsetting. I think it's unfair of your DH not to want you to say something.

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