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    ok so everytime step daughter comes over she has terrible nits and we spend every holidays getting rid of them and send her back home with all prevention stuff which doesnt get used so the nits just come back and the next holidays we have to get rid of them again. Anyway after talking to step daughters mum i asked if it was ok to cut and dye her hair the same colour as it helps keep them away. she said yes so we went and did her hair the same colour and put 4 foils in it as well. it looks gorgeous and step daughter is super happy. Anyway step daughter left last week (and I am missing her sooo much) and i ring her today to see how she is and asked her how mum liked her hair and she said mum likes it but is going to take her and dye the foils bright purple and pink for school. am i being selfish for being upset? it almost feels like she is just trying to one up on the coolness factor for her. i discussed it with her and got her permission before dying it and she was fine with it but now is just going to die over the foils.
    am i being selfish?

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    I wouldn't say you are being selfish, I think you're just annoyed

    The one-upmanship must be terribly frustrating

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    Quote Originally Posted by SuperTrooperVagiDuper View Post
    Depending how strict her school is they may send her home to remove the pink and purple. Its usually not allowed...
    Yes. Good point, I didn't think of that

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    it would be annoying

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    yeah its one of the things that makes it hard.

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    Well I can see the Mum's point of view. She probably thinks you're always trying to be the "cool" one by doing special hairdos etc. I'm not saying you are - it's just it must be hard as a Mum to have a child come back really happy due to special treatment from a step parent. I would want to feel special and cool too.

    I don't think you're selfish but maybe try and think about things from her point of view.

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    yeah its one of the things that makes it hard.

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    Quote Originally Posted by EmyB View Post
    Well I can see the Mum's point of view. She probably thinks you're always trying to be the "cool" one by doing special hairdos etc. I'm not saying you are - it's just it must be hard as a Mum to have a child come back really happy due to special treatment from a step parent. I would want to feel special and cool too.

    I don't think you're selfish but maybe try and think about things from her point of view.
    yeah I do try to look at it from her point of view which is why i checked with her first, if she had said no or that she wanted to do it i would have left it and let her do it.

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    how old is you step daughter

    don't think selfish is the word its just usual step behaviour

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    she's 10


 

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