My friend called me tonight and is starting to get a bit anxious leading up to EDD next month. She separated when she was 4 months pregnant and has been adamant that her ex will not be at the birth. She has turned down offers of a support person and plans to do it on her own. I will look after her other children during her labour but she has a few questions that I couldn't answer so for those of you who have been on their own:
-when did you let the FOB know what was happening? Before you went to the hospital, during labour, after baby was born or the next day?
-does she morally, ethically, legally have to have FOB see the baby in the hospital? She doesn't want to be anywhere near him herself so wondered how it would be done?
-how hard is it not to have a support person? She had a late term miscarriage on her own at the hospital so knows from that experience it is possible but this is a bit different.
-this is her first VBAC. Should I be encouraging her to have a support person on 'stand by' just in case?
-will the hospital staff turn the father away if she really doesn't want him there?
-how did you juggle access visits in the first few days/weeks?
Lots of questions so thanks for sharing your idea and knowledge.