I read it as more as a "none of your business," type statement.
Yeah I read it as a none of your business type comment too, it's amazing how personal people you know, even strangers get once you have a baby!
So many times a shop assistant has asked me out of nowhere if I am breastfeeding, yeah I am, did you want some??
Not sure why anyone really needs to know how someone feeds their baby, unless it is being directly talked about like PP said, its an innappropriate question IMO.
Yep, I totally understand where she is coming from! It has not connecting breastfeeding to genitals, but a frustrating vent on how all of a sudden when you fall pregnant you are at the mercy of everybody giving you tgeir opinions, whether they are warranted or not. It was one of the first questions anyone would ask me when I had DD1 and to be honest, wish I had the balls back then to give a quick, witty response. Bit like elderly strangers at the shops who interfere when I am dealing with a tantrum throwing 2 yr old!! Thats another thread altogether!
I totally get where she is coming from! When pregnant or with a newborn, I got so sick of the personal questions 'are you having a natural birth or csect?' ' will you be breastfeeding?' 'do you have any stretchmarks?' 'did you end up with stitches?' 'do you have haemmhoroids yet?'. My goodness, since when do people ask so many personal questions.... Any ONE of those questions would be highly inappropriate in most social situations.... And doubly so if coming from a stranger or a bloke, in my opinion!
You're right guys. I think I completely took it the wrong way. It kind of is a pain in the *** when people ask whether or not you're breastfeeding. Thanks for giving me another point of view = )
I hate it that my MIL asks me, just because she never speaks to me or DS, and is....whatever the polar opposite of attachment parenting is.
She thinks it's terrible that I still breastfeed and co sleep at 17 months, and she makes that quite clear.
Anyone else, I don't really mind, unless I know they're asking so they can be all shocked and disgusted when I answer yes. Which unfortunately, is most people that I know.
I haven't read all of the responses but totally get where she is coming from.
When I was preg with Dd1 I was constantly asked if I planned on BFing and if I planned on a vaginal birth. By random people. Especially people at work. One day, I was asked both question rather loudly from across an office full of people and it was kind of awkward. My colleague (a man) was like, "she did not seriously just ask you that???" and I told him it happens almost every day.
So yes, I was tempted to say something similar: "I don't know what will happen with my genitals next month. What about you?? What do you think you'll do with yours?"
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