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    I just saw someone post 'The next time somebody asks me if I breastfeeding, I'm going to ask them if they shave their genitals. Both questions are so inappropriate.' Wtf? How is asking somebody if they breastfeeding inappropriate?

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    I don't find it inappropriate unless it's totally out of context then I'd be more confused than offended lol


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    guess people think it is, i hate the question now that ds is 20 months and still nursing, i get ready to cop **** when i say yes

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    I've posted something similar but opposite. Something like 'next person who asks me when I'm going to wean ill ask them if their bra matches their panties... Oh? I thought we were asking each other random inappropriate personal questions?!??'

    I get it. If I wasn't breast feeding I'm sure I'd be just as over being asked if I breast feed as I was about being asked if/when I was going to wean.

    I don't get why every one has to have their parenting choices (and with breast feeding it may not be a choice) scrutinized.

    And it does get annoying when people ask in that 'oh, do you STILL breast feed?' way. But for me until 2 months ago when i weaned I was okay if people were curious because I get not every day someone sees a 3 year old breast fed (unless your my DF -lol)
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    Quote Originally Posted by NutsyK View Post
    Maybe she doesn't breastfeed and feels guilty about it or has been made to feel guilty about it so is now on edge?
    or maybe she does not feel guilty at all about her choice and is simply sick of being asked

    as long as she is feeding her baby does it really matter

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    I understand where she's coming from. I think whether you bf or ff, people seem to think it's their business to ask you personal questions from the moment you get pg then have a baby.

    Then of course there's the inevitable judgments. ffing mums I've found get passive aggressive comments like you've given up already? well I suppose some women don't stick with things when they get hard. Bfing mums get Your STILL feeding? geez slapa bottle in their mouth FFS it's getting creepy!

    People seriously need to learn to mind their own business on matters that don't concern them

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    Yeah... You're right. Maybe I interpreted it the wrong way. I felt like she was referring to breastfeeding as something... I don't want to say sexual. I think boobs and genitals are two different things.. that's all.
    You're right though. She might feel guilty about not BF. I gave up on BF and always hated people asking if I was breastfeeding. But I never found it inappropriate.

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    I understand that people might liken it to other personal questions that don't affect the person asking.

    I FF from when DD was a few weeks old, and even now (she's 18mths) I brace myself when someone asks if I BF. It's not that I feel guilty - just that I'm anticipating (sometimes wrongly, sometimes rightly) that the person asking will make their opinion very clear as soon as I give my reply. And unless the context warrants it then I don't want (nor care about) their opinion.

    I think that once you are pregnant/ have a baby you get so many opinions about BF/ FF from all kinds of people, and it can get pretty tiring. I sometimes feel like asking "What do you feed your 12 year old for dinner?" - or a similarly irrelevant but comparable question...

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    Perhaps "inappropriate" was the wrong wrong. "None of your business" would be better.

    Is this like when the midwife said to me (with my 3rd child): "Oh so I see you're artificially feeding her?"

    Me: "No I really am feeding her. Here are her used bottles."

    Her: "You know what I mean...ARTIFICIALLY...like formula..."

    Maybe...just maybe...as long as that child is being fed, it is actually nobody elses business. Just a thought. In the same way as how I choose to groom my genitals is noone else business either.

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    I find it telling that someone automatically assumed that the woman in question was both a ffer and feeling guilty. When I read the OP I thought it could be either way. A ffer tired of the same judgments, and a bfer tired of the same judgments.

    This generalisation of the guilty ffing mum seems to be so common (and I'm not having a go Nutsy, just making an observation).


 

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