+ Reply to Thread
Page 2 of 2 FirstFirst 12
Results 11 to 13 of 13
  1. #11
    Join Date
    May 2008
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    I agree with this and for older kids too. My MCHN told me when my 3-4 yr old was having a tantrum, just to "love her, hold her". Often that's all they want, not to be shushed or ignored, just held and have their feelings of anger/sadness validated. It works so well and encourages them to express how they feel. They are now 7 & 9 and DS is 2 and i use it sll the time. When I just can't take it, I get the older ones to write how they feel and come and talk to me about it so I have a chance to settle myself down!

  2. The Following User Says Thank You to Annabella For This Useful Post:

    wrena  (27-01-2012)

  3. #12
    Join Date
    Apr 2009
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 postsRuby Star - 15,000 posts
    Yeah wrena a friend told me about that the car seat thing - I found that a bit confronting!

    I too don't agree with doing things that 'encourage' baby to 'release' because ummm to me that sounds awfully like your making your baby cry on purpose.

    Though sometimes you have to get from a to b and they have to cry in the car for a time because there's nothing you can do.

    I dunno... The friend who did do this to a fuller extend - admittedly going against her gut instinct - I don't think is a good idea. If your gut is saying just hold baby and be there and stay present to them but not to shush & rock & feed them and that feels right then that probably is exactly what they need. But if swaying or feeding etc feels right then do that.

    On a side note, I was observing how jasper deals with pain, I'm not sure if it's *good* or *bad* but I've noticed if he's hurt (like bruise on his head or a bad bang or graze, not just a little bump) he'll cry at first and then he'll close his eyes and goes relaxed and still, like he looks like he's asleep. Sometimes keeps whimpering but yeah, I think he's learnt to sort of meditate when he's in pain. I don't know if that's 'suppressing' himself. But it seems to work for him. I'm holding him while he's doing it & he'll usually bounce up after a minute or so and go back to playing.
    Last edited by Boobycino; 27-01-2012 at 19:19.

  4. #13
    Join Date
    Jul 2011
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    Annabella, your MCNH sounds awesome! Nice to hear there are some goodies out there I'd just like to add that when Althea Solter says that there is no evidence that crying in arms is harmful, this is a bit disingenuous as there is also no evidence that it is not harmful. It seems logical that crying in arms would be a very different and preferable experience to crying alone but there is no evidence that there is a physiological difference. I read "The Aware Baby" when I was pregnant and thought it was really interesting. I then followed up the references which she used to support her theories and found that she just tended to reference her self and other opinion pieces rather than actual research. I'm not saying that this negates the concepts, but I've treated the Aware Parenting ideas with a bit more caution since. Like Boobycino has said, I think it's important to do what feels right in your gut rather than slavishly follow any theories


Similar Threads

  1. maternal health nurses making parents shocked distressed crying
    By sylvia1111 in forum General Child Health Issues
    Replies: 2
    Last Post: 31-07-2012, 16:17
  2. Babies crying in the car - need advice
    By LoCo in forum Babies (3 - 6 months)
    Replies: 30
    Last Post: 26-04-2012, 18:08
  3. 9wk old DS has started crying for me to comfort him
    By avenew05 in forum General Parenting Tips, Advice & Chat
    Replies: 17
    Last Post: 21-02-2012, 06:59

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
Free weekly newsletters | Sign up now!
who are these people who write great posts? meet our hubbub authors!
Learn how you can contribute to the hubbub!

learn how you can become a reviewer!


forum - chatting now
sales & new stuffsee all
At ProSwim, we believe so much in the early introduction of young babies to water, that we're offering FREE swimming lessons for 4-6 month olds. A great activity to do with a mothers group.
Contact ProSwim on (08) 8276 8622
featured supporter
LCF Fun Languages Australia
We offer foreign language lessons for children 2-12 yrs in French, Spanish, Mandarin, Italian or German as after-school and preschool clubs or private language tuition. This is play-based, full immersion language learning with proven results!

Pregnant for the first-time?

Not sure where to start? We can help!

Our Insider Programs for pregnancy first-timers will lead you step-by-step through the 14 Pregnancy Must Dos!