I am 23 weeks pregnant and my life is falling apart.
I have friends on here so I have created an alias...I hope that's okay.
A bit of background...DP and I have been together for nine years. He got into property investing and basically lost a lot of money as his business partner stole 200k from him.
Things are in court over that, but whatever happens, we have to go bankrupt. DP is a mess...he has a short temper and is really struggling with things.
We also want to move from where we live now, to another state (VIC) to be with family before bubs is born.
We got into an argument today because I asked him once again to stop using drugs at parties and he refused. Now...he's not by any means addicted. He has used three times in the past 12 months, but that is 3 times too many in my book. He has known my feelings on this all along and for years has said he will quit in his time.
With bubs on the way, I want him to quit now. He said he needs an outlet and an escape from this crappy life we have found ourselves living.
I said that wasn't healthy and he had better work on finding a healthier coping mechanism.
It got heated and he knows I might leave over this because I feel so strongly. He yelled at me for abandoning him over something so stupid when he is going through the worst time of his life.
He threw the phone at me because he told me to book a flight and get out of here now. The phone bounced off the back of the couch and hit me hard and my ear started bleeding. He demanded to inspect my fingernails because I must have done it to myself to cause drama. I was sobbing...
He then cooled off and apologised profusely...told me he was mortified for what he did, that he didn't mean it and he doesn't deserve me. Told me I had every right to leave.
I've been a mess all day, and he's gone out for coffee with a friend because he thinks we need time apart.
I have no friends or family in this state. Not a soul I can call up and confide in about this.
Please tell me...was I out of line? Should I be okay with him occasionally using drugs (meth and speed)...have I strung him along?
This all came up because a friend of his, who uses meth a lot, invited DP and I out for dinner this Friday night and DP wants me to stay home because I wouldn't have fun since I can't drink. He won't promise to be home at a reasonable hour and he won't compromise.
Sorry for this long vent...I am just so lost and I don't even know if I'm in the right.
TIA for any replies.