Dh's grandfather passed away late last week (FIL's father)
Preparing for the day involves some 'catering'. When discussing possible numbers, MIL said to me, 'So I suppose both of your parents will attend the church. Are your brothers/sisters coming too?'.
I paused, a little puzzled, and said that no, my parents and siblings had not mentioned attending the funeral or any of gatherings afterwards.
She went all thin-lipped and huffy and said nothing for awhile before blurting out that she thought my family not attending was quite disrespectful to my FIL.
I told her that I was surprised she expected my family to attend and that knowing them, they would feel rather intrusive, attending a funeral for a person they hardly knew.
MIL said their attendance would be a sign of support to FIL. I said that a funeral was about the person who had passed and only those who were a part of his life should be a part of his farewell.
MIL's ****ed at me. I'm ****ed at her expectations. What do you think?