For me it wouldn't be something I would consider undser normal circumstances. E.g just not being in the mood, stress etc. I honestly can't imagine having a s3xual relationship with anyone other than my husband. We have been together nearly five years and had our ups and downs and dry spells lol but we've always managed to work it out and have a very enjoyable relationship that has gotten better over time. I don't think I have the type of personality to consider it. I'm not against anyone else having an open relationship, I think it's very liberated. It just doesn't sit right with me, for my relationship. Dh and I have spoken about it and swinging etc and he isn't interested either. Maybe when we are a lot older and bored with each other we might consider it but I really don't see it happening.
As for being medically unable to dtd, it is still the same for me. I couldn't do it with someone else while I was married to dh. I guess my thoughts are : where there's a willy, there's a way. I would probably prefer for dh to see a prostitute so that it was clinical. The thought of him having an emotional AND physical connection to another woman would really break my heart. Physical only , I could *maybe* deal with.
You obviously have strong opinions that women should give sex whenever their partner wants it, even if she doesn't to please him even if it doesn't please her. You are entitled to that opinion. Just as we are equally entitled to disagree with it.
The reason I can't see the point is because when I'm in a serious relationship with the person I love, I don't WANT to share this part of our love with someone else. This is just where I'm coming from. When I was single....yeh I did whatever...had sex with whoever because I didn't have a committment to anyone.
Obviously there are those who don't feel that way....and I don't really care, although I'm still puzzled with dh's workmates who still 'hide' things from each other even though they're supposedly in an open relationship and have been for many years. Me thinks it has slowly chipped away at the trust...but I really don't know.
Last edited by scarymarygoldfish; 24-01-2012 at 12:02.
Hmm interesting thread What are we actually discussing here ? I always believed an open relationship was the same thing as polygamy (i think that's thw right word) ? not just having sex with other people but also having other relationships ..
Persoanlly, i don't believe in open relationships but i know a lot of people who are in them. This brings up the topic of similar things such as swinging, 3sums etc, what does everyone else think ? As strange as this sounds, although i'm against open relationships, i'm not entirely against swinging etc (have never done it but DH & i have discussed it in the past whilst watching a documentry & what 'rules' would be involved) so i guess each to their own
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