Last edited by FloatingFairy; 06-02-2012 at 21:56.
Yeah, but I'm vegetarian!
i've had a bit of a browse, not read everything but read quite a bit, it's so interesting and good to see so many different opinions, stories, points of view etc!
AFM... If DH wanted an open relationship at any point i'd be okay with that. Before meeting DH i'd never had a serious relationship (by choice) i enjoyed s3x and i enjoyed being able to do it with whoever i wanted basically. I liked the freedom, and the variety. For DH however he's only ever slept with 2 people. His previous wife and me. He is of the opinion that you should only have s3x with someone you intend to spend the rest of your life with/someone you are married to. So he was okay to have s3x with me before we were married, but only because he felt we'd be together forever. We were brought up in entirely different cultures and religions, so i think that's played a big part in our different views/opinions of s3x. I would never cheat or go behind his back, i love him far too much for that and respect his want to only have s3x with me. He is my world and the person i want to be with forever and grow old with, i'd never sacrifice him over not having 'variety' in my s3x life. It's definitely something i can sacrifice to be with the one i love
I guess it's like how I feel about those that choose c/s for non medical reasons - I don't understand it, but I really don't have to. I get the concept of what some are saying about sex being purely physical, and when I was a teen that's how it was. But I find it hard to process the thought of having sex with someone else, even on a just physical basis. Bc I would see it as a betrayal for our love.
But then other couples it isn't a betrayal. So like anyone my views on the subject are clouded with my own morals. It's really none of my business what others do and who they sleep with. The only issue I have is if it's a pressured open marriage.
Someone I know was married to a man, he cheated. He then suggested an open marriage/swinging type set up. She didn't want to do it but he pressured her. So she told herself it was better to know and be involved then for him to do it behind her back. Long story short threesomes become twosomes (in which she was the left out party) he took a special liking to one of their 'friends' and it almost tore the marriage apart. They survived it but only after a lot of counselling and time.
Mind you, that isn't my opinion, I just thought of it!
But yeah I see what you mean. When I say I don't understand that doesn't mean I'm judging. Just that I couldn't comprehend an open relationship with my DH and I know DH feels exactly the same way. We have talked about this subject before, not in the context of wanting to be in one but why others do it, and he is strongly against it too.
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