DH and I do pretty well now. When we had just settled into our relationship I was working a lot so never felt up for it very often. Now I only work 10 - 15 hours a week and even with DS we've hit a nice equilibrium. He'd like it a little bit more (like every day or more) but he's still satisfied with the amount of BD he gets. I don't mind how often we DTD as he gets me in the mood, but if he didn't make the effort I'd happily go a little less. We initiate fairly evenly these days too.