I am just wondering how you all go about being social/really engaging in relationships with friends (and family I spose).
I lost a friend last year just before xmas and when she died a few us realised we hadn't actually her for a good 4-6mths. I don't have regrets about this per say, she lived a couple of hrs away from m, we stayed in contact via sms, email and FB and would chat on the phone here and there (i hate talking on the phone).
But it did make me realise that I don't really ENJOY being social. I do live about 2hrs away from a big group of friends I grew up (and family) which does limit things, but in general I am a real home body and enjoy being at home.
I love my friends dearly and they are important to me, but Im not a person who wants to see everybody every week. I like having visitors and ppl will come down for the weekend - we probably have a visitor/group of visitors once or twice a month. And we probably go to Melbourne once a month. Aside from that I catch up some friends down here maybe once a fortnight.
I talk to all my friends on FB, email and sms mostly - is this abnormal/unhealthy?
I have a dear frined who lives about 6hrs away and we speak maybe once a month on the phone. I always think I shoudl try to call her more, but then I never do.
EVERYONE KNOWS I WILL NEVER ANSER MY PHONE - im shocking. I just dont like doing it really? I dunno why?
So this weekend we are in Melbourne and I have had a few ppl try to catch up - I normally bail on plans or make up excuses not to go cos I can't be bothered. But this time I have committed to them - so I have dinner friday, lunch sat, dinner sat night, brunch sunday and I also need to pop in to see someone else). Just thinking about I can't be bothered and would much rather just veg out with my sister while in Mel.
Its that these ppl aren't nice ppl - I think they great ppl and want to be friends with them - i am friends with them. Im not a quanity kind of girl, I would rather have a handful of really good friends then heaps of acquintances. But even these handfuls - I dunno?
Am I wierd? Do normal ppl get excited about seeing their friends? I am excited to catch up with them, but don't think I am missing out on our friendship by having it more long distance/online.
I think if I lived in Mel maybe I would see them more? maybe not? I love time to myself or just hanging with DH. And I do like when ppl visit - I just not a big fan of going out?
So anyway, how do you be social? Do you like it? Or do you do it because its important to put effort into friendships you value?
Sometimes I feel I'm wired wrong? I am very chatty and like human interaction but I just a home body.