Thank you all for your responses.
DH's psych said that he had never heard of fits of melancholy and he has been in psych longer then this guys has been in nuro. He seemed to indicate that this excuse was a load of hog wash. He has an eeg done, has a family history of epilepsy. I highly believe that he may have epilepsy or so ething causing these vacant/absent seziures but i am truly unhappy with the diagnosis and lack of guidence. To me it's like being told you have cancer, deal with it. You will notice more at some times then others.
DH is also worried as he the family history lead to a death (grand mahl in glass shower ) and he himself had 2/3 absent ones in one very long shower. We have enough hot water here for 4 long hot showers consecutively and he came out and went straight to check the system as he only got hot water for a minute or two.
Re: my issue, i'm pretty sure i have a trpped nerve or 2 as my elbow and finger both move oddly and the odd movements increase numbness.
Pp if you could mention it to your nuro see if he thinks it is possible but i would say more then likely he would tell you to oass along the get a second oppinion line.
XOOMing in to the hub from the couch