Or am I being too sensitive?
Basically I've noticed a lot lately that my DH has developed a habit of telling our DS (6) and DD (3) off on my behalf....... and I don't know if I should say anything to him because he is their father after all.
It bugs me because I'm their primary carer and I am quite capable of disciplining them myself as I do all day long!! Also he works long hours and often only sees them for an hour or less a day before they go to bed and I hate that he spends that time reprimanding them rather than playing with / enjoying them.
They are both well behaved children, have good manners and are considerate of others, however they are ALSO children and have their moments!! I choose to pick my battles with them, and if it is near bed time and they are tired I am happy to let the little things go a little, where as my DH who has only just walked in the door will tell them off. He hasn't been there all day when they have been using their manners and playing nicely together and so on.
I worry that they will feel like "Dad is never happy with me", because if I feel like he is riding them too hard, what do they think? Or am I just being over protective??
It also really aggravates me that he's telling them off "for me". For example, DS will crack a fruity about something, and DH will yell at him "WHO DO YOU THINK YOU'RE TALKING TOO?? APOLOGISE TO YOUR MOTHER". Whereas I would much rather tell him myself to calm down and speak to me with respect if he wants or needs something, but in a calm but stern voice.
I get tired of all the yelling, and I want to strangle my DH and tear him to shreds sometimes, but know I can't with the kids there!! It's not that we disagree on what constitutes bad behaviour. And we agree on parenting methods. Lord knows that I have yelled at the kids from time to time! I do however think that it is important to pick what battles you want to fight, and I hate that it seems like that is all Dad does
I especially hate that he is doing it for me!! Like I don't or can't discipline them myself!!!
Would you say something? Or is it his right and I should just pull my head in?