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    Default Can anyone relate or am I just nuts!

    DH and I had “the talk” last weekend. We decided it was time to put on our trying hats, so to speak and make another baby.
    DD was such a surprise to us, partially because we weren’t outwardly “trying” and secondly because I had been off contraception for 3 years and nothing was happening. This time I have decided to take a more controlled approach to the whole conception scenario.
    Well what a nightmare. Firstly, it’s probably a terrible idea for someone who is so hell bent on controlling every aspect of her life to even consider that she may be able to control a situation so uncontrollable and secondly, the more I look into it the more disheartened I become. There is far too much information available on Dr Google.
    Seriously, who would have thought having babies was so complicated. Being someone who has not really experienced much of people with fertility trouble this is a whole new kettle of fish and its turning me obsessive.
    So far in the last week I have managed to convince myself that I ovulated on the 8/1/12, DBD on all the right days and should be pregnant right??!! Wrong! I’m currently 11 DPO have taken 3 pregnancy tests and all BFN. I’m getting disheartened and impatient and its only our first month trying. I guess I have never thought about how difficult making a baby is, who’d have thought right? As far as I was aware, you stopped contraception, had sex and huzzah a baby was made!
    I keep having all these “early pregnancy symptoms” and have myself convinced I’m pregnant, but all the tests so far have been negative. I think I’m letting myself get carried away in all the information. Is there is such a thing as being too informed? Or perhaps subconsciously I’m making the symptoms appear thinking I can imagine a baby into my belly! Crazy right!
    I know I’m freaking myself out, getting too anxious, getting too ahead of myself, gosh, its only the first month of “trying”. My body still has me convinced I’m pregnant… which leads to a massive disappointment when I test and its BFN! I guess I just need to remind myself that I’m in early stages, there are people worse off, been trying for longer etc etc and to stay POSITIVE!
    Anyone else out there that can relate??? Or am I just crazy. lol

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    I totally believe in being to informed!!

    I charted by BBT (actually very helpful) on the month I got preg I thought we had missed it. But apparently you can get pg when you ovulate 3 days after DTD!!! Wtf...

    Anyway I got bfn on 11dpo, only got a BFP about 15dpo. never got a super strong dark line even at 38 weeks.

    I'm not going to tell you not to stress, it's a ridiculous concept when your attempting to being a human into the world. Don't stress? Pfft!!!

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    haha.. i shouldn't love but that was me almost 2yrs ago when TTC - we are still trying but I am now so chilled out about it that I forget to DTD when I am o'ing. (although I was good this month and make sure we did it at the right time).

    TTC is swings and roudabouts - sometimes you need to know everythign, sometimes you realise your better off sticking your head in the sand.

    Do whatever feels right for you at the time, and rest assured WHATEVER crazy thing you have done there will be at least 6 other ppl on the hub that have done it too!!! At the very least it makes for some light hearted threads!

    My only serious advice is to be mindful of what you expose your partner too. There have been several of us on BH (myself included) who went mega mission and turned into scientists and our partners got a bit bambusseled by the whole thing.

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    Thanks ladies for your wise words. At this point, i've managed to keep my craziness to myself and my DH isn't too aware of whats actually going on with me, the last thing I want to do is scare him out of performing (iykwim)...

    I think that I will "try" to relax about it and just see where it takes us. The more I look into it, the more clinical it all seems to feel and I much preferred the lovely surprise that came with my DD. It made it all feel somewhat magical.

    I have a super organised and control freak approach to almost everything in my life and I can just see this getting out of hand before we even start LOL

    having said that, my body still has me convinced that i'm preg. AF is due Sunday, so we shall see - hopefully it never comes and I can end the crazy journey before I even start... LOL

    Thanks for the replies though ladies, I really appreciate that i'm not alone, and that i'm not crazy (well maybe just a little)

    Good luck to you both on your journeys!

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    Hi

    No ur not crazy!! I'm a bit of a control freak as well and it came as a complete surprise to me that u didnt just DTD and along comes baby...sooo mis-informed!!

    I think its good to know a certain level of detail but to not get too obsessed coz u get let down... And also to try opk's etc for a few months but to try telling it naturally a bit as well coz u don't want it too clinical... Not the easiest thing hey!!!

    I convinced myself nearly every month that I was getting pregnancy symptoms but forgot that when ur off the pill ur a lot more hormonal (I am anyway!) But so hoping that ur body ie telling the truth and u get a BFP.

    All the best

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    Body was lying af turned up yesterday, not top worry will keep trying next month. And try opk and a little less stress lol

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    Awww no hate it how our bodies do that to us!!

    I always expect to get a negative test now when I try so when it happens ill be surprised and when it doesn't I don't get so let down... I still get let down tho!

    Good luck

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    Funny how our bodies work! I will just need to remind myself in the future that early pregnancy symptoms are very very similar to that of AF and I shouldn't count myself in until AF is late...


 

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