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    The whole responsibility of a rape is on the rapist!

    Nothing a victim does causes them to be raped. It makes me angry, sad and concerned to name a few when you hear of people having to adjust their behaviour to keep themselves safe.

    Also is the fact that no always means no. If someone does not have the ability to say no then the answer is still no. Silence should never be taken for consent. Surely these are things people should be taught at a young age!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Annabella View Post
    I agree.

    Unfortunately I don't believe that I can trust rapists to stop raping, and therefore I try to make decisions to reduce my risk of being in a place, at a time, where i might be more likely to be raped.

    Sadly, I think thats just reality
    But then you can do all that and still not be safe.

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    its so sad that you have to keep doing these posts WCM.

    I went back to a house, in a short skirt, drunk. It was 2am.
    I danced around in my underwear and had more to drink...
    then I was raped.




    I guess I asked for it.
    except i was 15, it was after my year 10 formal where i had just had my first real kisss....

    it was my house and a family member.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BerylsMum View Post
    its so sad that you have to keep doing these posts WCM.

    I went back to a house, in a short skirt, drunk. It was 2am.
    I danced around in my underwear and had more to drink...
    then I was raped.




    I guess I asked for it.
    except i was 15, it was after my year 10 formal where i had just had my first real kisss....

    it was my house and a family member.
    I'm so sorry to you and all the others that have experienced rape. I am one who's rapist was far from a nameless, faceless stranger. My rapist was my boyfriend of 3 years from when I was just 16yrs old. I was raped over the course of my relationship in my bed at my parents house, while my family were asleep. My boyfriend was literally twice my size and there was not a thing I could do to stop it. The first time I woke up in the night to find him staring at me in the moonlight with his hand around my throat. He knelt over my chest and pinned my arms to the bed with his knees....I'm sure you know what happened next, and next, and next.

    Its so important that people know that rape happens in familys, in relationships, by people you know and that people know it happens to everyone from all walks of life. My family had, and have, NO idea what was happening under their upperclass, private schooling, sport playing, well-off roof when my BF stayed over

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    I don't understand why it's such a difficult concept to grasp. The only person responsible for a rape, is a rapist.

    DP is a police officer, and in the short amount of time she's been on the job she's seen people who've been raped by partners, strangers, family members in parks, alley ways, their own bedroom and supermarkets.

    And they're the people who come forward

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    Quote Originally Posted by Shoopuf View Post
    Yeah, that's true too. I guess it is a lot easier to think of a rapist as being a nameless, faceless stranger than somebody you know and possibly trust.
    I definitely trusted mine - so did many other girls my age. Our high school appointed senior students as "buddies" for junior year 8 students starting high school. Just to show them around, look out for them, help them fit in etc.

    He did all of that which I appreciated. It wasn't until a few years later after I left school that he turned from my 'buddy' to my 'enemy'.

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    It wasn't until I joined this forum that I came to realize how prevalent rape was. This is one of the few times that I have nothing to say. I'm sad beyond belief that this is the world we live in. What FREAK does that to somebody?


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    I just want to clarify that I do not think anyone is responsible for their own rape, regardless of the circumstances.

    I am just not comfortable putting my faith into rapists to not rape, which is why I choose to attempt to protect myself by other means. Whether or not my efforts are effective is another story, but at least I feel empowered for trying.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Shoopuf View Post
    I just want to clarify that I do not think anyone is responsible for their own rape, regardless of the circumstances.

    I am just not comfortable putting my faith into rapists to not rape, which is why I choose to attempt to protect myself by other means. Whether or not my efforts are effective is another story, but at least I feel empowered for trying.
    I'm the same. It just really sucks when you do all that then get raped and beaten, mid-week, in a smelly work uniform straight after work in the late afternoon. Polo shirt and knee length short.

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    Quote Originally Posted by share a book View Post
    I'm the same. It just really sucks when you do all that then get raped and beaten, mid-week, in a smelly work uniform straight after work in the late afternoon. Polo shirt and knee length short.


 

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