For those that have had/have gender disappointment, how did you cope when TTC subsequent babies?
We have 3 boys between us, Mine are 2 and 4 and his is 4. We have just decided to TTC again, we have already been down this road last year, which ended in an ectopic pregnancy. I am excited but I am also scared,anxious,guilty and feeling really down about it. I obviously want a daughter, I have since before DS1 was born and I have been through gender disappointment with both of my boys, second time around was very hard because we were told we were having a girl and it wasn't until a follow up scan at 23weeks wefound out otherwise, I didn't deal with it well, but by the time my second son was born the feelings had passed, but arise everytime I hear someone is expecting a girl, whenever I think about TTC and if I fall pregnant with another boy I just don't feel excited at all, actually i resent the thought of having another boy. I love my boys more then anything and I like to think i would come around to the idea of another boy, but I just don't. I don't want to spend all my time looking up and preparing myself to try and up my chances of a girl, I tried that with DS2, I followed a strict "girl diet" and the shettles method, but we still had a boy. And I dont want to do that again, I don't want to set myself up for failure again.
Thankfully, DP has been supportive and understanding, he also wants a daughter, but I don't think he gets the full extent, I dont think he understands that TTC is really hard for me, all I can think about is what if I fall pregnant with another boy. I hate feeling like this, I know I should feel blessed and I do, but I can't help these thoughts
How did you cope with these motions?